To wish my parents hadn't told absolutely everybody I was going into hospital ?

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Went in on Wednesday for a laparoscopy and cyst removal. I hadn't told many people because its about my womany bits and don't want to have to explain it all.

At the op they found that I have the most serious stage of endometriosis and whilst they did what they could I am going to have to go on hormones that give me an artificial menopause for 4 months + HRT then its our one big chance for TTC no 2 ( We had been ttc for 14mths without success probably as it turns out because of the endo) If this isn't successful then I will probably have to go on the drugs for the menopause again and potentially long term think about a hysterectomy as there are potential bowel and waterworks issues because of where the endo is.

I'm struggling to come to terms with all this and I know I need to get on the endometriosis website so I can weigh up all my option, but I'm also feeling a wee bit sorry for myself. I know that I am really fortunate compared to a lot of people but its just a lot to take in and I need time to come to terms with it.

I'm just feeling a bit overwhelmed with all the cards and bunches of flowers that keep arriving and really hoping that people don't ring up to ask how I am as I don't feel up to going through all this in real life with people, especially since I'm sure the advice will be to count my blessings.

Oh look don't bother replying I know AIBU and parents are just concerned for me.

yanbu, it is hard to deal with well wishers when you are struggling to deal with things yourself, but they do all care about you! Turn your phone off for a bit if it helps.

I would hate this rookie. I can't be doing with the fuss other people make, preferring to work through it myself and ask for help when I need it (although often as not I don't ask).

Although like you I know that's a tad unreasonable.

Sorry you haven't had the best of news.

It is hard.

I can understand your feeling tho.

I to have had the chemical menopause injections for 6 months and a futher 8 months for menses to restart going from a 35 day to a 21 day cycle was not fun.

this was befor ei meet hubby and due to it being on the ovaries and having PCOS the chances of a baby are virtually nil but doesn't stop us practicing

You sound lovely. You're certainly not unreasonable to feel this way, it's very valid to want to be left alone for a wee while but you recognise why your parents did it and are aware that people are being kind to you.

When I had my dd- traumatic delivery, em cs in the end- we decided to save the birth announcement for a few days because I felt extremely fragile. 48hrs post-op people started turning up with flowers and gifts and cards as my ILs hadn't managed to not tell anybody. I hid in the bathroom and sobbed. DH had to turn them all away after a quick cuppa and a squeeze of the baby. I felt selfish for hiding, aware of how kind people were but desperate to be left alone.

I'm sorry for your endo problems and wish you lots of luck and happiness.

Thanks folks I do feel better for getting that off my chest and thanks for sharing your experiences.