Hmmm I don't think so but

[KatieDD]

My daughter comes home from a play date wearing a Jasmine costume and I remember the situation being that my daughter is told she can keep it. It was ripped all down the leg and I remember thinking well she can wear it until it needs a wash then i'll bin it. So that's what i did.
18 months late I get a text asking if I can return the costume as it's needed for today.
So I send a text explaining.
Now this is a mum I consider to be a friend, our kids are up and down but we stay out of it, run together etc.
Today and pick she says hello but is decidely frosty.
Am I seriously meant to buy a new costume or something to resolve this would you say ?

Today at pick up I meant, typing too fast

YANBU 18 months ago. Come off it, it wouldn't even fit now!!!!!

no I dont think YABU at all!!

If it was given to your daughter then it was hers, and if it was ripped and un-wearable then you had the right to bin it.

Plus its 18mths!! I'd have forgotten something like that by now!!

18 months?

I'd have written it off by now!

But if she is funny about it I'd probably offer to replace it.

18 months is too long. Your not a free storage company are you? This woman is being completely unreasonable. What is a Jasmine costume by the way?

Jasmine costume is Princess Jasmine from Aladin, it belonged to her eldest daughter, she gave it to my middle one and now she wants it back for her youngest.

oh reminds me of a friend who gave me her pram from her dd who was 6 and was used on her eldest so pram was at least 10 years old, and its purpose(as she very well knew) was to sit in stables so that when I was mucking out, my dd could sit in it.

She once asked for it back about a year later, for her mother to push her little (old)jack russel dog around and when I explained that it was just about wrecked, covered in hay, straw etc, she looked very put out

I have never taken anything off her since.

Some people are very precious about their stuff.
Dont worry and YANBBU

You have to be so careful of gift/loans! My sister offered me some outfits for my DS, but then she said that some of them were really precious to her and that she would want them back.

I said - if you want to keep something - keep it. I'm not going to fret over an outfit knowing that you want it back. So she kept them, and I was happy with that.

Also warned my other sister when my DS was playing with some of her son's toys (he's outgrown them really, but she's so darn precious about all of their belongings that she won't get rid of anything) to not leave anything out that she would be upset if it got broken - told her several times in fact. Then something did get broken - I mean, my DS was only 14 months old, and threw things more than 'played' with them - and I pointed out that she was supposed to only leave toys out that she didn't mind got broken.