I am, i know i am but i just want to have a bit of a whinge and a why me moment...feel free to ignore me

[HRHSaintMamazon]

my friend has a boy and girl of 11 and 10.

she has now become pregnant after trying for the last couple of months.

Im not happy for her. im being selfish and thinking about all the things that we will have to stop doing together now. no more going for a nice lunch, no nights out, no more childfree shopping days....I'll hardly ever see her and when i do she will have baby with her.

OF course i am over the moon for her really, and i cannot wait to be an "aunty" but i am having some slightly woe is me moments too.

I do indeed need a slap and told to get a grip. wouldn't dare say any of this in RL for fear of upsetting anyone as i know i dont feel like it really, not deep down.

maybe im jealous?

Slap.
Get a grip.

Awwwwww.....

I got pregnant unexpectedly when my dd was ten and I lost a really good friend because of it... she probably felt like you. But I was actually still up for being friends, she just drifted off from me to others who she could go out with more easily.

You can still be friends! Just get used to going round her place with bottles of wine etc (well, maybe give it a few weeks for the newborn to settle in ). More fun anyway...

Slap.
Pull yourself together woman.

Like PuppyMonkey says, you can still be friends and try and be supportive if you can. Do you have any kids of your own?

consider yourself slapped!
as above, pull yourself together and feel smug about how you won't be as tired as her! Then be happy for her. There is no reason why you should see each other less. I'm sure she'd be upset to know you felt like that. So you might not have the same 'quality' time, but you can still get together, maybe for a takeaway instead of a meal out. And another positive, think how much money you will save!

I think you are right, you may be secretly a little jealous..... I am sure I would be, always got bloody bump envy!!

HRH, You sound somewhat jealous of the time you won't have with your friend. Just take it as a testament to all the fun you did have.
You can still have good times but it will be different as your friend is moving on to other things. I bet you will make a wonderful "auntie". Slap yourself and just get ready for the future.

Of course you're jealous, you now have competition for your friend's attention. If you think about it another way, it's because you love her to bits that you're a bit jealous! Of course that doesn't mean that you aren't happy for her, but to have a little internal moan about it is reasonable. But NEVER say it out loud in RL!!!!!!

Ahhh we all have 'woe is me moments', thats what makes us human, i guess a big xmas piss up is off the cards for you and her then, i would be secretly disappointed too, at least you can vent it all out here

a 'why me'? I thought it would be like your child was ill or something.
Be pleased for your firnd and make some more for when she is busy with baby.