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Has DH gone deaf over night or am i speaking alien all of a sudden????

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rmm · 14/11/2008 06:42

I desperatly need to know if IABU becasue right now i could rip off dh head and throw it as far as i can.
I normally love him to bits but today he is just buging the shit out of me.
I'm almost 34 weeks pregnant and we are moving house this weekend. For the last week i have been crying, screaming pleading to have all the contractors out of the house so i can start moving some things over. DH wouldnt hear of it becasue he wasnt comfortable having our things around with contractors wondering around at will. Fair enough i packed boxes.
Yesterday i started getting the boxes moved across and setting things up etc. DH has promised o help out. In fact he swore that i wouldnt have to do anything just sit and relax and supervise.
Now i know this is unreasonable but he wasnt feeling well so instead of going to the doc in the morning he goes to work and then to the doc in the afternoon, which menat that i was left moving and sorting out the boxes i had initially packed. I had help so it wasnt too bad, but i was really fustrated and felt completely disorganised. Anyway by the time he came back from the doc it was really late and we called it a day.
Last night i asked him if we could go through a POA so we both knew what was goin on to avoid confusion and he tells me it will all be fine.
So i suggested what we should do and how and HE AGREED. So this morning i was up at the crack of dawn. Let him have a lie in becasue he wasnt feeling great. Make a start planning according to our discussion last night, when DH finally gets out of bed has a long shower, shaves etc, then starts packing his stuff in a box which he empties of my things!!!!!
In the meantime i'm trying to organise DD who is 3 and being really difficult, get lunch packed organise what needs to be moved etc and DH wonders in and tells me what he is going to do today. Which was completely different to what we had discussed.
I almost punched him. I was so upset and when i told him he got really arsy saying he didnt remember having the conversation with me (well obviously becasue his nose was burried in is flipping blackberry) and i had been going up to the hosue all week making empty runs in the car!!!!!!!!!!! He's told me not to move anything.

I am so pissed off right now i have com einto work and left him to sort out the move.
Might even go have a massage!!
So if you've managed to read so far - please tell me an IBUR or cant i vanish for the day and let him cope???

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london11 · 14/11/2008 07:22

YANBU - leave him to it and go and have that massage

squeaver · 14/11/2008 07:44

You have done your bit. Leave the rest of it up to him.

Bubbaluv · 14/11/2008 07:46

YANBU, he's being stereotypically male. Just take a deep breath, walk away and let him deal with it all without your help.
I hate Blackberries!!!
You def need a massage - will make everything seem more tolerable.

lizziemun · 14/11/2008 08:02

Go and have your massage and let him get on with it.

BouncingTurtle · 14/11/2008 08:17

Another crackberry widow!
You should definitely get that massage, men can be so clueless sometimes!

rmm · 18/11/2008 07:11

Thank you for all the responses.
We finally moved!!
The actual move was ok - it got really hectic but we managed but now we have teething problems and i am so very fed up.
We are completely disorganised and dh has gone back to being deaf. It was wonderful to be communicating but now that the drama of moving is over he's gone back to doing his own thing!!!!
In the meantime i'm exhuasted and all i really want to do is go home and get some sleep and have my baby in relative organistion.
But i still have atleast 3 weeks of work and i have to empty out an entire room of "lost" things.
Dh announced this morning that he's missed too much work to do anything else.
I know he's under pressure with his business, but i'm fucking 34 weeks pregnant and working parttime and looking after OUR toddler the rest of the time. When did superwoma die and appoin me here replacement??????????????

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