uncaring partner???

[hungryhorse]

Hi I am 8 months pregnant with my second child and my partner does not seem to understand the physical effects it has on me.

I know most people will say that all men are the same, but with our first child he was great... wanted me to rest, caried heavy items, helped me put on my shoes lol etc.

This time around he watches me clean the whole house with a dustpan and brush (we are waiting for a new hoover), refuses to take our first to school or pick her up if he's not at work, and when we are out walking he gets really frustrated when I need to find a toilet, ask him to hold my bags, or even dare want to sit down.

Am I being unreasonable here? I'm not expecting to be pampered... just a bit of consideration of how tired and heavy I am?

God no, it sounds like you need to have a proper talk to him when you are both calm, in the classc advice column over dinner way, lol! People don't really hear "nagging" , but if you talk properly and explain how rough you feel, and a little bit neglected too, if you're honest, then listen to his side too, you might get somewhere. Maybe he is worried about money or the extra work? I agree he needs a kick up the arse tho, just trying to work out the most effective way to actually see some change!

I know... I suppose I might nag a bit lol.
It annoys me that I have to say anything at all though when he was s o understanding with our first.
I think he thinks I'm a wimp and should be superwoman!! I have got upset on occassions and he's asked me whats wrong ... when I explain he sys he's sorry and he does understand... but nothing changes.
I don't know!