Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

to be upset that my mum is emotionally blackmailing me.

35 replies

spookycharlotte121 · 11/11/2008 19:47

She has locked herself outside her house and cant get in. She is working untill 10 and she wants me to get the kids out of bed, go over to her house and "break in" for her. I have done it before at night when I have gone out clubbing and forgotton my keys. In otherwords I can get into her house without keys and without causing any damage... my older sister can do the same.

Both me and my sister have young children who will both be in bed at 10. Im still nursing a really nasty bug too and dont want to go out in the cold but having explained this to my mum I got a massive mouthfull about how she does so much for me and how shes only asking for a small favour from me and I wont do it. She shouted at me and slammed the phone down.

I really dont think it is fair to get the kids out of bed at that time of night and take them out in the cold. They both have immunisations at the docs tomorrow and I wanted them to get a good nights sleep so theyre feeling good tomorrow but according to my mum Im a selfish cow. AIBU?

OP posts:
OptimistS · 11/11/2008 19:50

Given the circumstances, I think YANBU. But I'd probably do it, cos I'm a pushover like that. Can you suggest she stays at yours and you break in tomorrow?

StormInAnECup · 11/11/2008 19:51

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn

GrimmaTheNome · 11/11/2008 19:51

I think she's the one being unreasonable. Can you offer her a bed for the night maybe?

NCbirdy · 11/11/2008 19:54

Couldn't you do it now, get the keys, drop them off for her and have the dcs in bed at a reasonable(ish) hour?

Ally90 · 11/11/2008 19:54

You know your not being unreasonable...you have the narcarsistic sister too don't you?...Don't give in...not for anything would I get my dd out of bed at that time of night and you are poorly. Stick by your guns.

compo · 11/11/2008 19:56

hang on.. presumably she is very upset aout being locked out
Can't she get a taxi to yours and stay the night?
I wouldn't like to think of my mum out in the cold all night that's for sure
did you suggest she came over to yours?

MmeLindt · 11/11/2008 19:56

Does she have anywhere to sleep?

compo · 11/11/2008 19:57

'not for anything would I get my dd out of bed at that time of night '

erm.... it's ten to eight!!!! and it's her mum locked out? really, not for anything? it's not like it's midnight fgs

LittleBella · 11/11/2008 19:57

Sorry but she is working till 10?

Why hasn't she sorted her problem out before going to work?

Because she relied on being able to dump on you?

spookycharlotte121 · 11/11/2008 19:58

Im normally a pushover but not when the kids have to be dragged out of bed, I put my foot down at that.
I just get fed up of being snapped at. This isnt a one off! I would help my mum if I could but I think its really unfair on the kids.

OP posts:
Annthecat · 11/11/2008 19:58

What other solutions does she have?

help her find a better solution.

She is in a pickle but you going out at night with small children does not seem a great idea.

compo · 11/11/2008 19:59

you don't have to wait until 10pm thoigh, you could go now?

RubySlippers · 11/11/2008 19:59

why can't you leave the key you have for your mum's, somewhere outside your house, for your mum to pick up so she doesn't disturb you

coppertop · 11/11/2008 19:59

If your mum doesn't want to stay at yours could she come and babysit the children while you go round to hers and bring back the keys for her?

compo · 11/11/2008 20:00

why don't you phone her back and offer to sort out a locksmith for her, then you won't need to go out?

LittleBella · 11/11/2008 20:01

Her mum's at work.

compo · 11/11/2008 20:01

ah, I think coppertop has the best solution, as long as you don't get arrested for breaking in

RubySlippers · 11/11/2008 20:01

oh - just seen you don't have spares

i think she should stay over at your house

LittleBella · 11/11/2008 20:01

or have I got that wrong?

it seems to me she swanned off to work on the basis that she could get the OP to sort out her problem.

Is that wrong?

compo · 11/11/2008 20:01

doesn't her work have phones then?

compo · 11/11/2008 20:02

but maybe swanning off to work is too harsh? maybe work would fire her if she didn't turn up?

LittleBella · 11/11/2008 20:03

Presumably, she slammed one down.

LittleBella · 11/11/2008 20:04

Maybe her work would. Would it OP?

spookycharlotte121 · 11/11/2008 20:04

She cant get in with keys... as she slammed the door on her way out the latch fell down. I cant get in by putting my hand through the letter box. I have told her that she should change the door as anyone could burgle her but she hasnt. She holds parties at peoples houses so hasnt long left the house hence only dealing with it now. I would have to go out after 10 though because she wont be hone untill at least after then.

not sure what narcarsistic means lol but I do have 2 very trying sisters. 1 with a million behaviour problems and the other who is just plain rude! I on the other hand are perfect

OP posts:
LittleBella · 11/11/2008 20:04

The point I;m making is that if she's at work, she can't babysit