Stupid and spineless, perhaps, but I don't think unreasonable. Now not sure how to deal with it...

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I live on a small estate with allocated parking spaces for each house, plus visitors bays. I don't have a car, but have an agreement with my landlady that she uses my space. This keeps the cost of my rent down a little.

A friend of mine lives 5 minutes away in the town centre, and parking is a problem for her. She could buy a parking permit, but I guess this would cost a lot of money - not sure how much.

Anyway, a couple of years ago, I told her she could park in one of the visitors bays by my house from time to time if it would help - not permanently. However, since then, she has just left her car there all he time.

This was stupid of me, as there's a clause in my tenancy agreement forbidding this. Also, she has a volatile temper, which I find quite intimidating. She often behaves as though I've done something to offend her, although I don't know what it is. Anecdotally, she's like this with lots of people.

My landlady called me last week to say that the managing agent had received a complaint from one of my neighbours, that I was letting someone park here permanently. I promised her I'd deal with it, and left a couple of messages for friend, which she didn't return until yesterday.

A letter had been left on her windscreen from the managing agent, asking her to call their office to explain herself. She agreed to do this, but then texted me this morning to say she thought she would do so pretending to be me, and saying that I had given her permission to park in exchange for childcare.

I texted back that I really don't want her to do this, that honesty is probably the best policy, that the letter was addressed to her, that they would know she wasn't me, and that my tenancy could be at risk if I start messing them around.

She didn't reply, but I later saw her on the school run, and suggested we talk on the phone later. However, she flounced passed, snarling, and said she was just going to move the car. Car as now mercifully gone.

I know she is furious, and will totally take it out on me. It's a case of shooting the messenger, although I was daft not to have addressed this before. I've had a rough time recently and don't feel strong enough to deal with this womans anger. She'll be here later as I'm having her DD after school. What can I do or say?

I am actually a managing agent for a car park that serves some flats and the issue of car parking can become a nightmare.

Tell her the terms of your lease do not allow her to park in the space (unless she is actually visiting you) and that if it continues the managing agents have said they may clamp/tow her car.

That way you are giving her a 'heads up'

It was so important I posted it twice!

She will get over it. If not well, a friend who would rather get you in trouble with your landlady rather than paying parking fees, do you really need that?

BTW you were doing her a favour by telling her she could use the place "from time to time" She abused that by staying "forever" and suggested to impersonate you at a meeting to get off the hook

you are right

she has behaved badly

I wouldnt bother saying anything tbh sounds like the situation has resolved itself

Say sorry. Tell her that you shouldn't have given her permission to park there as the space is not yours to lend out. It belongs to your landlady and that's why you pay less for your rent.

Say that it's your fault for giving permission, you never should have done that. But now the landlady has complained and so you have no choice but to ask your friend not to park there.

If you really do dread her and her temper then that's the best way to deal with it. Not the way I would go about it, I'd be a lot more forthright, but you sound as though you can't do that so would this method work any better?

Have just remembered: I went to a social do at her place a month or two ago. A man who'd been doing some painting and decorating for her was also there. When I introduced myself he said "Oh, you're TMWOSQ! I've been parkng at your house, she told me that if anyone asked, I should say I was working for you!". All delivered with lots of laughter.

Idiotically, I didn't mention this to her.

Also, according to my landlady, the person that made the complaint told the agent that they had spoken to me about the parking situation and that I'd been abusive This is bolleaux - I've never spoken to them. However now I come to think about it, I'm wondering whether it was her they spoke to???

Agree with everyone else who has posted - she is taking the piss.

Agree with poster who said to inform your letting agency that you have told her she must no longer park there unless she is visiting you so that if she continues to do so then it is nothing to do with you. I would also agree a way with them of verifying your identity when you call them so that she cannot impersonate you and get you in more trouble.

And I would also go and visit the neighbour who claims you abused her just so that they know that it was not you who did this but your friend.

Then I would have nothing more to do with her other than what is neccessary for your dd's friendship with her dd (and reciprocal childcare favours if this helps you too) - someone who behaves like this is NOT a friend