to be hacked off at DP and his negativity towards MY DS?

[milliemayhem]

My partner moved in 3 weeks ago to my flat. We've been together just over a year. My DS is 5 (from a previous relationship) DP is always snapping at my DS telling him to Stop this, do that, don't do this, listen to me, etc. You get the picture. I also have days of ranting with DS, he can get very excitable. But get hacked off cos he always seems to be telling him off, rather than pointing out the good things. He even called DS a baby earlier when he thought i wasn't around. AIBU, or is this part and parcel?

So sorry but I agree - this shouldn't be about 'guiding' your dp through it and 'teaching' him how to become a parent. He already knows, just chooses not to do it with your boy while perfectly capable of it with the girl - also you can't change him. You really can't. It isn't your job anyway. Your job is DS who needs someone to stand up for him, and is it going to be you? Because I don't think there's anyone else going to do it

Please try to focus on helping your son, not this grown man who himself is acting like a baby.

My ex was EXACTLY the same. He also seemed to think girls were a completely different breed from boys and would treat them very differently as if they deserved kinder treatment.

He was an arsehole and your DP sounds the same. We split and thank god. I'm now very reluctant for my kids to meet anyon else incase some other dickhead comes along who thinks he can treat the them however he likes because he's an immature twat.