to be hacked off at DP and his negativity towards MY DS?

[milliemayhem]

My partner moved in 3 weeks ago to my flat. We've been together just over a year. My DS is 5 (from a previous relationship) DP is always snapping at my DS telling him to Stop this, do that, don't do this, listen to me, etc. You get the picture. I also have days of ranting with DS, he can get very excitable. But get hacked off cos he always seems to be telling him off, rather than pointing out the good things. He even called DS a baby earlier when he thought i wasn't around. AIBU, or is this part and parcel?

i'd tell him to fuck off.

YANBU at all. Set some ground rules out NOW. OK, your dp doesn't have the same experience of small children, may have unreasonable expectations and so on - so you need to spell things out to him. This is ds's home and he has to feel comfortable in it and be treated decently.

Not a good start to him living with you. Things will probably just get worse if he carrys on like this.

How log has he known ds? did they get on before he moved in? It sounds like jealousy to me on your dp's part. How has ds taken to him moving in?

YANBU.

I would be very very careful. Maybe get that how to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk book and you read and then rave about it and get him to read it too?

How old is your dp? Does he have any other close relationships with small children? It could be unrealistic expectations maybe. What feeling did you get about him wrt your son before he moved in?