AIBU in resenting the fact that my dh spent all day at the rugby?

[PembsLass]

I'm asking because I want to genuinely know whether i'm being unreasonable rather than for you all just to pat me.

DH works 5 days a week, I am on maternity leave. I look after our 4month old during the week and do all the night feeds. We have an agreement that he looks after LO on Saturdays (although i'm still in the house). Today he went to Cardiff to watch the rugby-he told me he's be home at 6pm, he got home at 9:30pm.

He doesnt do much with her in the evenings bar the occasional bottle or bath and he's in the pub Friday after work.
He also often plays rugby on Saturdays.

I feel really resentful today. It's not so much that i'm really knackered, i'm just really really bored and need some time to myself.

Is this just the reality of being mum therefore am I expecting too much?

Was he taking the trains?

is it on off.if so than yes yabu.if its every saturday he buggers off day and night then id be bit pissed off too.

No driving DifferentID.

It's most saturdays Cheesesarnie but not all

have you spoken to him about it?

Did he have a ticket? If he did, YABU - sorry, I know exactly what you mean about feeling like you are doing all the work, because I have those days with little Ff (8 mo) too. However - Wales v SA in the stadium - you'd go if you could, wouldn't you? If he didn't have a ticket, and was just going into town on the lash, then YANBU.

Cheesesarnie-yes I have he's being contrite but then he always is.

Freckle-I can't think of anything more tedious that sitting through the rugby-I don't care who's playing :-)

agree with Freckle - although if he goes out all day most Saturdays to play Rugby is there some way you can find something for you to do either on a evening when he gets home from work, or perhaps on a Saturday.

ok so maybe i'm unreasonable. I can't get this sulky mentality out of my head, I feel like a child who can't control her emotions,

no you don't sound like a sulky child. You sound like a tired mum of a 4 month old.

Perhaps tomorrow you could talk to him to tell him how you feel about his Rugby. I don't think it would be fair of you to ask him to stop it - it's presumably a pastime he's had for some time. But if you could come up with a compromise where you get to spend time doing something you want do that would be good (for both of your probably).

If there's nothing you particularly want to do as a regular thing, perhaps even on the Saturdays he's at home you could go out, even if it's just window shopping or to visit a friend?

Change his day to sundays