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To want to write my lovely gran a soppy letter?

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Stefka · 08/11/2008 20:26

My gran has been a great support to me in my life. My parents, as much as I love them, really were not cut out to have kids. My father was a very angry man and often violent towards us and my mother was an alcoholic. I love them both dearly and have over the years more or less rebuilt my relationship with them but I know at the end of the day I can't really rely on them to be there for me.

My gran has been a great support to me financially over the years. When DH and I got married she gave us money, when we bought our wee house she bought us a fridge and recently DH and I have hit troubled times with money and she helped us out.

I have thanked her for her generosity already obviously but sort of want to write her a soppy letter letting her know how much her support has meant to me. But she is of a different generation and is not a particularly touchy feely person if you know what I mean. I don't want to irritate her or make her feel uncomfortable but I sort of still want to write to her and let her know that she has been a great resource of reliability in my life. I do have a tendency to be over sentimental though so please do let me know if I am being too much of a softie and if you think that I might make her feel uncomfortable.

OP posts:
Ronaldinhio · 08/11/2008 20:29

yanbu

do it
do it
do it

or txt her

differentID · 08/11/2008 20:29

I think it's a lovely idea- mention how much she inspires you to do for your children what she did for you and you feel priviledged to have had her input as you grew up.

Stefka · 08/11/2008 20:31

Thank you for the reassurance. If I can be half as good a mum as she has been a gran to me then I will be proud (which is sort of what I want to say to her).

Can't text her though - she's scared of her mobile!

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yama · 08/11/2008 20:33

I really don't think anyone would be irritated by such a letter. She may not be 'touchy feely' but I bet she is emotional.

beansontoast · 08/11/2008 20:39

oh what a lovely granny...oh doooooo do do it

i did this..recently infact,well jan of this year,but that is recent given that i have thought about it for a couple of years.

my grANNY IS 90..ooops,and most certainly a modest,serene 'get on with it' woman...so i sort of felt a bit like i imagine you did?..

what i ended up writing was poorly composed,quite possibly raMBLING...like a stream of consciousness about her...but i think i made my point which was to in no uncertain terms tell her how much she was loved and respected and cherished.

anyway...i did it...she didnt say much (fine by me),however at her nintieth b.day last month it turns out that she had spent the year since writing her memoirs/autobiography...AMAZING WOMAN..and the letter is mentioned...which makes me think that she did need to know how much we all think of her before she had the impetus to put her life on paper...

there i go babble babble...

do it...what have you got to lose
x

NotanOtterOHappyDay · 08/11/2008 20:46

stefka

my granny was more of a parent o me than either of my birth ones ( one a total shit /abusercand the other utter shit and alcoholic - I must have picked a short straw)

in her final years - i told her many times ...eased it i the conversation slightly jokingly at first as she was not the most openly affectionate or vocally loving person

towards the end of her life i would ask her if she knew what she meant to me etc and she seemed to..

It is worth making her feel uncomfortable - you WILL regret it if you dont!

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