Ok warning this might be long.
We moved into our flat 6 months ago and at first never had any problems with the postman. Then 3 months ago we had a package left on our doorstep in plain view of anyone walking past, it was also raining. DH got in contact with the local manager said he didn't want to make a formal complaint but please make sure this didn't happen again.
Since then we have had all sorts of problems in the post mail doesn't turn up or if it does days late. Packages look like they have been opened, special delivery post taken about 2 days to arrive, DH drivers licence go missing in the post. Although we were suspicious we cant prove its to do with the postman so haven't made anymore complaints.
But one odd thing that he does to is whether there is a package to sign for he is just putting letters through the letterbox he bangs really aggressively on the door almost like he is body slamming it. 2 weeks ago I was standing by the door when he started the banging and I went to open the door thinking he was maybe aggressively knocking the door turns out he had 2 letters for us.
Anyway On Monday we were expecting a package (my wedding ring)to be delivered Special Delivery. It never turned up, DH decided to call and complain this time as it was an important package and we were fed up with the appalling service. In the end DH picked it up at sorting office, post man said no one was in and he left a calling card. We were both in and he left no card. We left it at that we had our ring so we were happy.
Yesterday we were expecting another ring ( the first didn't fit) we had a special delivery come at 7:30am but no ring. DH called sorting office, they said as its a small package its gone out with postman. Postman delivers letters so package and none of his usual banging. DH gets the tracking number for the ring it says the ring has been delivered and signed for.
DH goes to the sorting office to speak to the manager and is very worried as t what has happened to the ring. We get married in 6 days time and I don't have a wedding ring!
Manager tried all day and couldn't get in touch with postman and that he will make it a priority to find ring.
TODAY: Postman turns up and for the 30 seconds-1 minute it took for me to answer the door he kept his finger on the bell and hammered like mad on the door. I'm alarmed but answer the door and keep calm and make no mention about the ring (which was delivered by special delivery a bit earlier) he had a package for me to sign, as I did he began to get really aggressive calling me a liar he did try to deliver the ring yesterday and he left a card. I calmly said you must be mistaken we were in all morning and you certainly didn't leave any card. Plus you did the paperwork to say it had actually been delivered when it hadn't.
He then gets in my face and starts shouting "if you complain about me again I'm going to come back and deal with your myself."
He they shouted a bit more and repeated the threat twice more. I asked him if he was making a threat and he walked off.
We went in person to the sorting office to make a complain the the manager, he seemed to take it serious and will be investigating and that on Monday he wont deliver our mail.
We then made a formal complaint to the police as we are concerned that he knows our names and address and made threats that he might turn up and carry out those threats.
I really frightened now that he is going to turn up and don't feel safe to answer the door anymore.
Am I being unreasonable to have complained about this postman and not expect to be threatened?
Am I over reacting?