To be jealous of Dh's first wife?

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I am a name changer but a regular who still misses cod

DH and I are trying to get pregnant, We have no children together. I have lost 2 pregnancies and I'm now feeling like we'll never have a baby together.

He has children from his first marriage and sometimes when I am really down I feel jealous that his ex wife had children with him and I can't.

I'm so sad and desperate for a baby, I have cried so much today that my head hurts. Getting pregnant seems to be so easy for some women but for me its a battle to get pregnant and stay pregnant. I have had a miscarriage and an ectopic, I lost a fallopian tube and an ovary with my ep so that has really reduced the chances of getting pregnant.

Oh hun, I think you'd be made of stone not to feel jealous. I hope it happens for you soon.

Poor you. Even though you're desperate for a child, maybe the fact that he already has them puts less pressure on your relationship? Even though he can't feel exactlyt he same pain as you.

My friend had an ectopic pregnancy and lost one tube and one ovary and she also worried she'd never have children. SHe has two now. I think it reduces your chances, but NOT by as much as fifty per cent. The remaining ovary does more than 50% of the work if it's the only one left.

Agree with Liffey.

My mate had an ectopic and 2 mcs. She them went on to have 3 healthy kids and I know that she didn't struggle too much to conceive (I think it took her about 8 or 9 months with the first and after that it was within 2 months for the other 2)

DP has an ex wife. They had no kids together, but I still felt insanely jealous of her for the first year or two of our relationship. It still pisses me off now years down the line that he married her but won;t marry me. It doesn't help that she is far prettier than me

Anyway - I have my fingers crossed that you go on to have a completely healthy pregnancy very soon.

It's hard I know, but he is with you remember.

Did you read the book by Adele Parks? Can't remember what it was called, it might come to me. But on the night she knew she'd been married to her husband for longer than the first wife had been married to him, she took him out to dinner to celebrate, except she didn't mean to tell him what the dinner was in aid of.

Young Wives' Tales. That was it. it was OK, don't know why I mentioned that really.

Sending you hugs, my cousin had an etopic whilst i was pg with dd1, she lost one tube and one ovary, she had 2 further mc and then she had her ds (after 2 years of trying).

My dh has 3 children with his ex wife and 2 with me, i realy wan't a 3rd and sometimes i get upset that he had 3 with her but only wants 2 with me. I know he doesn't see it like that, he has 5 children and feels that 6 would be too many.

I hope you have a healthy pregnancy soon (fingers crossed for you)

We tried for nearly 5 years for our first. Two and half years for our 2nd and weren't even trying for a third but it happened . We had multiple mc's along the way and watched as close friends and relations had their families before us even though we were the eldest of our group. I can understand the jelousey and it does get easier, slightly as things go on.