to think it's ludicrous to get offered christmas eve as a date for a grommet operation

[emkana]

apparently ds would be "fine" for Christmas Day

I don't think the nhs is "crap" but it's not exactly perfect either.

We had a choice of Christmas Eve or Boxing Day for a skin graft for DD. We chose Boxing Day but it was a nice time for her to be in hospital, she had lots of presents and the wards were all decorated.

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Ds had his third grommet op 6 weeks ago - we were in the hospital at 7.30, op was about 9am and by 12 we were out of hospital with him completely right as rain
How much celebrating do you do Christmas Eve? If it's an afternoon/evening occasion then he will be fine by then - honest!

I think the gift of hearing is the best thing you could give your son for Christmas. I am sure he will be fine for Christmas day

My son had his adenoids out and grommets at three and half years old. He was allowed to go home after four hours. Infact he was running about the ward two hours after he was first sedated.

My son has extensive scar issue due to experiencing 9 perforations. He was unlucky in that his grommets were pushed out after 8 weeks. He did have hearing aids, but his hearing has improved now tha the glue has disappeared.

emkana, there are lots of children who have hearing problems and would dearly take an op on Christmas Eve. They would not offer you this op if your son's hearing wasn't pretty bad.

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you are being offered a free necessary op,and the date doest suit.oh behave.prioritise what really matters

Wallace - you can just have him put down

Goodness me you are all being rather harsh.

The NHS isn't really truly free is it? I thought our taxes financed it.

And I know that if I cancel (which I have) I must expect to wait longer, which I will. Funnily enough in RL everybody was very understanding that I wouldn't want to have the op done on Christmas Eve.

"Prioritise what really matters" - hmm. Making christmas special for my dd's who have often enough taken second fiddle to their little brother really matters to me.

Ds's hearing isn't terrible and he has never had an ear infection, the consultant was actually in two minds whether to go for grommets at all, so I don't think it's that irresponsible.

And I am exploring the option of going private.

Why bother with the grommits then?

My DS2 had them put in at Easter and they have already fallen out.

What was good was that he started sleeping through the night 3 days after the op, so it obviously removed some pain (constant ear infections).

But actually it was quite traumatic because he has his adenoids out too and was distraught for an hour afterwards (14mths).

Aibu by stealth,dont like the response.so change the parameters of your argument to suit

whatever emanka

you should have been clear you only wanted affirmative posts

Xmas Eve is a brilliant day for an op. The hospital will be all Christmassy and he will have all his presents to look forward too to take his mind of what has happened.

Where have I changed the argument?

I didn't expect only affirmative posts and I know that aibu threads often go this way.

I still don't think that this much venom is called for.

But whatever back ScottishMummy.

aibu is made for people Just like you,hissy fit and accusations of "venom" from other posters because they had temerity to disagree

oh diddums

ScottishMummy!
OTT.
No need for attacks.

Yes and it's also made for people just like you who can let go of some pent up aggression

really, ScottishMummy, whatever. I don't need this and I realize now that it was stupid of me to start this thread.

It's not unreasonable for you to turn down the date, especially if you are happy to wait longer and Christmas Eve is a day you celebrate. I can also see what you are saying about it impacting on your other children.

But YABU to think it's ludicrous to offer it. There are probably plenty of people who will take it up and, like many people have pointed out, it's good use of theatre time and resources.

I'm bed manager for an inpatient unit. What I have to ensure is that our occupancy rate is good, empty bed days are kept to a minimum, and that waiting times are kept down. That means I have to offer admission on Christmas Eve. Some patients say thanks but I'd rather leave it until afterwards - which is fine, but many are extremely grateful to be in with us during that period.

SGM - Emkanas DDs have often taken second place to her DS because he has a permanent condition, and has serious illnesses since he was born.

I can completely understand why you are loathe to add tress to christmas, Emkana, but just wanted to assure you that in terms of an op it wouldn't be a big number.

Suggested grommets because of mild to moderate hearing loss in distraction hearing tests and quite severe speech delay. A case of "maybe it will help with speech, maybe it won't, but we'll give it a go"

dd's often take second place because ds has dwarfism and developmental delay and is in many ways quite hard work - extremely shy, extremely clingy etc etc, not his fault at all just circumstances - too many medical appointments etc.

Emkana - don't worry.

The word 'ludicrous' in the thread title was a bit 'charged' for the question perhaps and set things off a bit!

I think people were just trying to reassure you emkana.

Except Scottishmummy, apparently.

SurferMum! I totally agree with you, the word "ludicrous" was just completely the wrong one to use.

Your post is exactly the considered response I love to see and I can take very well.

And plenty of you have written very nicely trying to reassure me that it really would be okay, and I thank you, and it made me think twice about what I was planning to do.

{blu, will try and reply to your email this weekend. This grommets thing has also made me realize again that I am growing quite a pathological hatred of my beautiful ds being "messed around" with. I wish I could just tell all medical staff to go away and leave us alone. He is so happy when at home and so hysterical with fear when in a hospital setting.}