To wish that DH would stop treating illness as some kind of weirdo competition?

[AphroditeInHerNightie]

Why oh why oh why is it that, everytime I get ill, DH always ends up 'sicker'?
Does anyone else's S/O try and 'out-symptom' you when you're not well and respond to your complaints with scant sympathy but a list of all the resasons they feel crapper?
Even when I was pregnant I swear he was trying to outdo me with ailments. My 44 hr horrendous labour was 'not as bad as having to sit through you going through it and worrying'.
Grrrrrrrr!!
AIBU to want to be sick in my own right for once and be offered some sympathy and pampering? Please?

Ah, I have this problem too. Even with a temp of 104 and a kidney problem, I was outdone by a 'bad back'. I can never be ill, be it a tiny bit sniffly from a cold or totally incapacitated by kidney pain without someone (my BF) feeling worse. Very odd. And then, he made a big deal about how well he looked after me? NO you bloody well didn't... you made me get up and make popcorn for you, you lazy selfish arse.

Ooo, I didn't know I was so annoyed about this.

So, to summarise, YANBU.

lol, YANBU..
I have had a bad sickness bug over the past few days which consists of violently vomiting everywhere (to the extent i was in the bath and was throwing up over the side because i couldnt get out to get to the loo)..but my ds has had a tiny rumberly tum, which is obviously much worst...oh and then there is the constant groaning whenever he does anything...

Yes, yes, and yes again, AIHN. I wouldn't even contemplate receiving any pampering, it just gets to me that he always wants to appear sicker than me. He puts himself to bed with pyjamas on 'to soak up the sweat' FFS.

Did you not realise that manflu is always worse than woman flu? Tis a well known fact that men can't handle pain, sickness, etc!

YANBU in not wanting the competition...but YABU if you ever think you'll win

Ooh DH lays on a towel to "soak up the sweat"

It's manflu. It's genetic. There's no hope.
It's something to do with them not doing the childbirth thing. They have to compensate by screaming that kind of agony even when it's a sore throat.

I wouldn't mind if it were just the manflu and he were actually a little bit unwell. It's when he is perfectly fine and I am a tad under the weather that it gets competitive and suddenly he has all manner of aches and pains. Grrr

Reminds me of my sister's exdh - she had some bug or other and he complained he felt ill. She asked what he had wrong and he said
"whatever you had, only ten times worse"

If I get a migraine I have to grimly work through it and look after the DCs. It would never enter DHs head to come home and look after me. If he gets a migraine, he immediately comes home, goes to bed and stays there for the next 24 hours. Bitter, moi?

Funny thread - what infuriates me is that my dp is only ever ill when it's convenient for him, ie, at the farking week-end, when I'm not working. Funny how he's always better for work and football matches.

mine too!!

DH is always complaining of ailments, normally aches and pains which need rubbing.

I may be a bad wife but I don't do it anymore, cant be bothered with it. Boy that cried wolf and all that ...

I know what you mean! I gave birth to our daughter early hours of the morning + our families visited us in hospital in the afternoon.

After proudly showing off his new daughter, my dh's main conversation to everybody that afternoon was, "I'm so tired, I was working in London yesterday + had an early start, been up all night throughout the labour", etc etc!!

Ok, he'd done a great job of supporting me through labour but surely that's not the same as going through it?!!

In fact his sister commented that if she didn't know any different she'd think my dh, (her brother) had given birth + not me! He seemed to take the hint then + went very quiet for the next hour!!