Or am I a Bunny Boiler??

[MrsSnape]

Bit of a daft one really I'm afraid.

I've been talking to a bloke online for about 3 weeks. Seems very nice, have lots in common ... since we began talking we've exchanged very lengthy messages to one another and have discussed pretty much everything there is to discuss.

It's starting to get a bit tedious but he's made no mention of taking it to MSN, exchanging phone numbers, arranging to meet up or anything.

I know I must sound like a sad ol' bunny boiler but I hate hanging around wondering if it's going to go anywhere. He started off messaging twice a day ... then once a day ... and now every other day ... it's just starting to go stale before we've even had a chance to meet.

You could say he is simply going off me which would be fine (!) but his messages are still as long and as enthusiastic as the first ones he wrote weeks ago.

So...

is he trying to play mind games?
not really interested?
generally faffing too much

or AIBU and a bit of a bunny boiler?

Seems to be a bit of a feature of online dating - loads of people just want to keep it virtual.

I would suggest a coffee, and if he doesn't bite, move on.

I wish you could leave feedback on dating websites - there are so many freaks players out there. Obviously all the feedback on me would be fabulous

Just suggest a coffee/drink in a safe place and take it from there. Make sure someone knows where you are.

well he sounds uncommitted but, it is hard to gauge that for sure via one medium. gotta get a second media or even better actual meeting.

go for it and be safe.

Not a bunny boiler imo.

You don't sound like a bunny boiler at all. However, for whatever reason this guy seems to be no longer interested. So back off, go talk to someone else. BUT (big BUT) don't take it as a personal insult. He may well be married and just looking for a bit of fun, or who knows what his motives are. Doesn't look to me like someone you should be investing time or emotion with TBH.

Hmmm after plenty discussions with mates about this dating business, we have come to a conclusion. The ones that will work do not require games, guessing, etc. The clue here is in this that you said :

"I hate hanging around wondering if it's going to go anywhere"

There are 2 of you here, YOU have a say in it too! Why is it just up to him if it is going anywhere?
Email him and tell him that you enjoy your chats but as he hasn't mentioned it yet, you will - you are not looking to spend hours out of your busy week just emailing, and you would like to take it to the next step - meeting. Do not bother going through the ranks of msn, phoning etc etc. as this will just drag on and on and maybe end in him not wanting to meet you ever.

There are loads of blokes out there who love the newness of getting to know someone, it feeds their ego. But they never want a relationship. So weed these ones out, early!