to expect DD's school to inform parents that their children had been in a bus crash rather than encourage the children not to tell their parents?

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So that's what they're teaching at school?? To lie??

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Best to check EXACTLY what the HT said - might be a case of Chinese whispers. Kids do notoriously get the wrong end of the stick....

travelling on public transport= fine

falling and bumping their heads on a bus= possibly no more dangerous than doing the same thing in the school playground

teaching children to lie=

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Do you know which parents went on the trip? If you are friendly with one of them could you not ask them what happened?

I seem to remember that it is expected for a child to stand and give their seat up for an adult as adults pay full fare and children only pay half fare. (i am not saying I totally agree with this as kids balance is not as good).

I am shocked that the head would encourage the children to lie. I would be talking to other parents and getting a letter drafted for the board of governors and the lea.

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YANBU

how dare the school/tecaher try and hide what happened

i would be in contact to the local newspaper

Agree with mummyhill - try and have a quick word with one of the parent helpers tomorrow and see what was actually said. It seems like a really weird situation, because surely one of the adults who was there would have said something?

As you say - kids can sometimes get the wrong end of the stick - maybe that's what's happened here?

YANBU

I would be furious.

If a child has any form of head inuury parents should definitely been informed fulls top.

But a car crash - my word. They should have been speaking to parents immediately, and seding out a note about it to as well - that day, no exceptions.

I agree with Aphrodite and Mamazon. if the ht exhorted the children to lie, that, of course, is outrageous. but it seems like quite a huge if

speechless

are you sure you havent got the wrong end of the stick?
are you sure he didnt say, let's not dwell on the incident on the bus and remember what a good day we had.
how many were standing? the driver wouldnt allow too many to stand surely?
how many banged their heads???

I am the lone voice here but it wouldn't bother me that much

But I went to school on school buses that careered into hedges about once a term

I once cut my head on an ash tray in fact

It was all quite normal then...

well exactly, my ds banged his head on the bus, he complained to me, i didnt take it any further,on the other hand he was 12 at the time and i think the op's were younger?

i am surprised primary school children went on the bus on a trip.

Regardless of what head has said then its hould still have been reported back to parents.

I am stunned that the head did not write a letter immediately on returning to school and have it go out directly to all parents of children involved that night, along with head injury notes for those that fell.

I would want questions answering tomorrow.

See - for me, the issue wouldn't be the head injury, it would be that the head exhorted the children not to tell their parents. If that's what did happen.

How long would it have taken them to draft a quick letter explaining what happened rather than the obvious chinese whispers a group of children would provide??? Definite YANBU

i expect there will be a letter tomorrow?
what time did they get back? was it late?

dh and I are so at headteacher suggesting they don't tell, I cannot believe it!!!

Surely they would need parents permission to take these children on public transport rather than a coach?

As if that wasn't bad enough telling the children to lie to their parents is absolutely shocking!

Personally I would be making enquiries about this with the local authority and ofsted to see what they should have done and to make sure this doesn't happen again!

Perhaps the law is different in Scotland than England regarding school trips.

We have to sign forms each and every time the children go on a trip away from school. Also they are not allowed on transport that doesn't have seat belts. The LEA have special school buses that they use for this purpose.

I have today just filled in a form for ds to go the local fire station which is 2 minutes walk away from the school.

It is a Catagory A Visits form and states "I fully understand and accept that, whilte the supervisory adults in charge of the group will take all reasonable care of the young people, neither they, nor Norfolk County Council, can necessarily be held liable in respect of loss or damage to property or injury suffered by my child arising out of the educational visit/journey, unless such loss, damage or injury results from the negligence of NCC, its employees or official volunteers.

Hopefully you will get the headmaster's side tomorrow and gauge it from there. I am glad your dd is ok.