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I am so angry.......and I think this sooooooo rude, but am I BU in being angry????

31 replies

PsychoGuyFawkesMum · 05/11/2008 17:35

DS1 has a friend in to play on his PS" as the weather is too bad to play out, and his sisters are ill and so are 'boring' (tonsilitis in the house, so not contagious to a visiting child who had it at the beginnning of the week).

we have now had 3 (yes, 3) children from the street knock to ask said visiting child to go out and play, but they have told DS1 that he is not invited.

this happens every single time this child comes into our house, and he actually tells them no, yet they still knock.

I have just had a word with said boys......I am so angry. I did not shout, all I said was that did they not feel as they they were being extremely rude knocking on my door for a child who does not live her, and yet not invite my son out.

they all looked at me a wee bit ashamed, but then one said.......but, we want to play with said friend, and he has a decent football which your DS1 does not have.

and

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hecate · 05/11/2008 17:36

Kids!

Little buggers.

WhatFreshelleisthis · 05/11/2008 17:37

Kids are so tackless arent they, yet honest in why they want him to play!!

how do they know ds has friend around?

hecate · 05/11/2008 17:37

Oh sorry, forgot to answer your Q - no, YANBU. It's pig ignorant.

slackrunner · 05/11/2008 17:40

It is pig ignorant and rude, and shows a total lack of manners on their behalf but it maybe doesn't warrant getting this angry about it.

PsychoGuyFawkesMum · 05/11/2008 17:41

cos they saw him come in our house.

DS1 and him were playing out, with the one last decent ball left to them as these lads kep puncturing them (rough play from what I can gather.

but it started to rain, so DS1 asked if they could come in, and so I said yes.

and now these lads want the friend out, but not my son, as the ball does not belong to him (as all his balls are now broken).

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PsychoGuyFawkesMum · 05/11/2008 17:43

Oh I know.......I am normally just irritated by it.

I have PMT tho, and general lack of 'oomph' feelings, and this happens everytime (so at least weekly cos of the current weather)........and so......today.......argh!!!

I didnt shout tho

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OldLadyKnowsNothing · 05/11/2008 17:44

It is plainly your maternal duty to buy DS the most super-duper unpuncturable football available, to save his social life.

travellingwilbury · 05/11/2008 17:45

I would try and turn it around and be really pleased that the one nice lad is choosing to stay with your ds instead of going out and playing with all the others (but then I do tend to be on the every cloud has a silver lining side of things

thesockmonsterofdoom · 05/11/2008 17:45

well done for not shouting, kids are cruel and horrid at times.

PsychoGuyFawkesMum · 05/11/2008 17:46

ah, but, yu see, I have no knowledge as to where to buy a superdooper unbrakeable ball.....

oh, am liking the 'pig ignorant' phrase BTW

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PsychoGuyFawkesMum · 05/11/2008 17:47

travelling.....yes, silver cloud and all that....

nope, not working tonight

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travellingwilbury · 05/11/2008 17:51

No probably wouldn't with me when I have got PMT but worth a try eh ?

Yes they are very rude but kids tend to be pretty rude (especially other peoples I find

PsychoGuyFawkesMum · 05/11/2008 17:58

yes, and especially other peoples children whom I don;t actually know!

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travellingwilbury · 05/11/2008 18:02

Is it time for wine yet ?

I always find that helps too

clam · 05/11/2008 18:02

YANBU. So say "no, they're busy." Or "either they both come out, or neither of them. How would you feel?"

PsychoGuyFawkesMum · 05/11/2008 18:06

wine sounds good

clam, I think I might try that if they do knock again, ask them how they would feel!

am glad IANBU tho

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Blu · 05/11/2008 18:09

So, they only want visiting child for his football, not his company?
Your son is better off without them.

Blu · 05/11/2008 18:10

In fact it just goes to show that having a good football (or other desirable objects) leads to fake freindships and means that you don't know who your real friends are.

PsychoGuyFawkesMum · 05/11/2008 18:10

yes blu, that is about right.

and yes, my son is better off without them, as is his friend.

I just cannot get over how rude they are, and why they would think it ok to knock on someone elses door!

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hecate · 05/11/2008 18:14

Yes, "pig ignorant" is very satisfying. It spits out of the mouth so well you see. try it. PIG ignorant.

Bride1 · 05/11/2008 18:14

This happens to us all the time with the yobby lads down the road. They puncture my son's football and then just walk away. Or kick it into the hedge and refuse to look for it.

We are now really fussy about who gets to play with our football.

Football certainly brings out the best in children, doesn't it?

PsychoGuyFawkesMum · 05/11/2008 18:17

hecate, I might try it to said lads next time they knock.....

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slackrunner · 05/11/2008 18:19

ahh a PMT day - in that case I think you were very restrained

TheProvincialLady · 05/11/2008 18:21

They sound like undesirables in every respect. Your DS is definitely better off without them.

PsychoGuyFawkesMum · 05/11/2008 18:55

lol slackrunner......DH did say I was very good to not give them hell, considering!!!

TPL, yes, I know that DS1 is better of without them, but it makes him feel so sad, and of course, mother lion rears her head

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