To not want to go to home for Christmas

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Ok this year I have been asked to go to 4 different peoples houses for Christmas

One is a close relative who I have just found out has got cancer who I go to christmas dinner every year

one is my Best friend we will call her (A) who I spend Christmas with every year but lives far from me but lives down the road from my sick family memeber

one is my Other best friend (B) who is expecting her 2nd baby in the next couple of weeks and whom I have made plans with already

and the last one is my Mother whom I have not spent a christmas with since I was 4 her choice.

My bestfriend(A) has put the guilt trip on me saying I should come to hers and stay over then go visit my sick family member and then come back to hers for Dinner even thou she knows I have made plans to stay in London as I am working Xmas eve she also said that if I don't go down there for Xmas my Family may not live till next year which she could be right but why make me feel bad.

My other BF and I decided that we would chip in together and spend christmas at hers we also have got MS vouchers from sky which we are going to use as its upto £100 :-D I really want to spend christmas with her and my new godchild to be and my GD there is always lots of fun at hers.

the last one is my mother she lives far away and the only reason she wants to spend christmas together all of us the Dc's sisters is a pretence thing as she has got a new man and she wants to pretend she is the most wonderful mum in the world I do love her but last year she didn't invite me to Christmas until the week before and had invited my sister months previous to that so why should I make an effort and play happy families

What would you all do please

Sorry for the shit spelling and grammer

Oh PP your just so polular i havent been invited anywhere yet

Go and spend xmas with your bf and new godchild

Forget your Mum for a start off, you've seen through her pretence. Spend christmas where you want to and visit the others another weekend or for new year.

LOL VT I think thats what I am going to do she lives up the road from me and I just want to relax over christmas. Thankyou

Wizzska I think that my other friend is going to get the hump with me as she is going to lengths to make me feel bad about my close family member the only thing that bugs me about her is I have lived here for 5 or 6 years and not once has she been here to see me but I have to get 3 trains to get to her hmmm.

Can you see A and Family member a different weekend? as A already knows about your plans she should get over herself and accept that you had already made plans you are working and want a relaxed xmas.

But if you sugar coat it with we could come and see you x or y i that would be ok and have aget together.

as for your mum nah no excuse needed you have other plans!!

I'd stick with the plans you've already made. Sounds like a lovely Christmas.

A is wrong to try to guilt trip you.
Your mum is wrong to play the happy family card.

What about going up before Christmas (but close to it) to see your sick relative? They may not enjoy the noise and fuss of Christmas with other people around.
You could then drop in to see friend A on the same visit.

I think thats what I am going to have to do go up either after or before christmas to see my sick family Member and friend A

I am looking forward to going to friend Best friend B's I have great fun with my 8year old GD and I know that were be playing singstar etc and all the kids will enjoy themselves

Thanks everyone :-D

Stick with your London friend for Christmas and see other friend and sick relative for new year. See your mother in between.