DS3 is being Christened at the end of this month. I sent the invites out last Wednesday, now admittedly I didn't have a RSVP on them (as really I don't need to know who's coming or not, as it's a faith (bring and share) lunch provided by church congregation afterwards, and there's plenty of seats for everyone in the church). However, not one of my family have bothered to even let me know that their invite has arrived.
I haven't spoken to my parents since August (when I called to let the DS's say happy birthday to my mum) that was about 2 weeks after I had a massive row with them and my dad accused me of being a liar (and thereofore suggesting that the Royal Mail never lie ). Before that I'd hardly spoken to them since exH and I split up in March. I was ill with depression and not in any sort of mood to be picking up the phone for a natter, and they never bothered to ring me.
My brother I haven't spoken to since the day after exH moved out (as he rang me to wish me a happy birthday) - he used to ring me once a week before then. He even managed to totally forget DS1's birthday recently (which wouldn't be so bad if he wasn't also his Godfather..........)
Most of the other family I sent cards to I never really speak to on the phone anyhow, it's more family gatherings and Christmas that contact so I'm not really expecting to here from then if they're coming or not - they'll probably either turn up or they won't.
I know through exH that one of his sisters invites arrived, he hasn't spoken to the other one (although I'd already told her on the phone about it when she rang me - yes my soon to be ex-inlaws have been more supportive of me than my own family have.......) and exH's arrived, as did the ones I sent to friends. They've all let me know it arrived (even if they're not sure if they can make it or not yet) despite it not having a RSVP.
TBH I don't really want my family there, I know it sounds terrible, but I don't. For the hardest 6 months of my life they haven't given a shit about me, instead making their own excuses as to why they haven't contacted me more regularly (or even at all!). I'd rather just have my 2 SIL's and their family, exH and my friends there - but to try and keep the connection their for the DS's I have invited them.
I know it's been not quite a week, and I didn't put a RSVP in the invites but am I really being that unreasonable to think that they could have at least sent me an email or a facebook message to say they've arrived (btw my parents have been nagging at me for over a year about "when is DS3 going to be Christened".........)