We live about 2 hours from the in-laws. DH works away one weekend a month (at least). The in-laws are desperate to see dd which I understand but are insisting on coming to ours to stay at least once every four weeks, for at least a long weekend. They don't ask if it is OK just announce when they will next be here. This means that we seem to have very few weekends just to ourselves. FIL is quite helpful but MIL does very little, they both stay up drinking till the early hours and so MIL doesn't get up till late. DH finds them more difficult than I do. We do understand that they need to see their only grandchild but feel like we can't relax in our own house when they are here and whenever they go they immediately try to arrange the next visit. We feel as though we can't do what we'd like to at weekends (just simple quiet family time or seeing our own friends!). We do go to their house sometimes but it is a bit too small for us to stay easily. They are the sort of people to get totally offended if you try to address issues. Feeling stressed that this will now be the pattern for ever, especially as expecting number 2 soon. But can see it from their side a bit too....