to think that when your family treat your dcs not as good as other kids in the family, you shouldn't let them get away with it

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to many accept it imo.

Has something happenned to you re this and your DC's? Glad you got sorted on the other thread by the way

No. You should tell them that you are not happy and why - but you have to accept that you cannot force someone to behave how you think they should, and so you have to be clear yourself what you intend to do if things do not go the way you hope they will. (and this normally means withdrawing from their lives if their behaviour is so intolerable to you)

You have to accept it i'm afraid. My DH had it out with his dad once and his dad just said that's how he was.

When we accepted that my and his families played favourites and moved on from that life was easier.

Shit for the dc tho,my eldest barely speaks to my parents and realised a long time ago that my brothers dc were the favourites.

DH is always saying that it's their loss but i don't agree. They don't give a fuck and my dc do

not really to me, my family do hack me off from time to time but i tell em why.

just see this sort of thing on mn all the time and it makes me so sad.

thanks smile and wave btw.

I think the reason i would never really have it out with my family is that nothing would change after it and i would feel even more shit about everything.

My db was the favourite whn i was a child and he still is. It stands to reason that his dc would also be the favourites and they are.

I made a decision on New Years Day that i would concentrate on my own dc and my dh and try to let it go.

It is hard and i have really struggled but i am getting there. We are spending Christmas day alone for the first time in around 15 years.