To not want my MIL to come and stay during my last week of maternity leave?

[Gangle]

Don't really get on with her anyway though make the effort for DH and of course want her to see DS, 7 months, BUT, is my last week of maternity leave before going back to work full time. I'd cleared my diary so I could just spend every moment with my gorgesous boy but now she's descending and will ruin all that. Have asked DH to get her to rearrange but apparently it's the only week she can come. Grrrr!

Any progress??

No, unfortunately not. Have explained my feelings to DH - he says he understands but can't stop her coming. She is 67 but still teaches (abroad) and next week is her half term and apparently the only time she can come. I've basically made plans to be out as much as possible although she will want to see DS at some point, plus have decided to take advantage of having a babysitter and go out Tuesday and Thursday night. Still really really upset and annoyed though. Have told DH I will never forgive him but he still won't stop her. Some flexibility at work but not that much.

And you won't call her and stop it?

Well if you are not happy, tbh I think you just need to say, "no, absolutely not, sorry."

Is it worth a big family argument? Sometimes these things are, sometimes they are not. Grandparents do irritating things, it is part of their job, but sometimes these things need sorting out. And sometimes, to preserve the relationship, it is best just to let things lie.

Your dp, otoh, needs a serious bollocking for arranging your social life without your consent.

If need be though-why don't you just go away for a week? Can you go and see your own parents?

"he says he understands but can't stop her coming"

wtf? I mean, if it comes down to it, he can surely change the locks.

But is he seriously saying that if he phones up and says "I'm sorry, gangle just can't do that week, it is her last week before she goes back to work and she has an awful lot to sort out, lets talk about you coming up some weekend. No I am sorry, we absolutely CANNOT do that week, it is non negotiable", she will STILL turn up on your doorstep? How will she get in? Through the window?

I suspect he actually doesn't want an argument with his mum. And you do need your partner to be prepared to stand up for you against his mum. MILs are often the last bastion of husband crapness IMO.

YANBU, how frustrating for you. Make the most of the babysitting. When you go back to work you may feel that all your free time should be for your DS so might be worth fitting in some time for yourself in the day at some point too, perhaps for some pampering/haircut/exercise. I'd feel just like you though.