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to think my ex is an idiot not able to focus on his objectives....

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MeMySonAndI · 30/10/2008 20:38

Ok... feeling furious a minute ago... now I'm starting to find it amusing....

He travels a lot and I have to take care of DS on times he is suposed to be taking care of him, we have an agreement that if I take his place, he will take care of DS in a day that DS is suposed to be with me. Problem is... he asks and asks for favours but he, has such an active social life that he RARELY is available to pay the favour back

His sister is coming to visit in a weekend DS is with me, so he asked if he could have DS that weekend. I said, "yeah sure, you can have him, that will coever some of the times you still owe me"

He has got all worked up, accused me of taking advantage of him, that he didn't owe me any childcare and I ended up having to hang up the phone on him.

What I just don't understand yet is why, if he wanted that extra time with DS, why he has refused to do it?

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Tryharder · 30/10/2008 20:56

At least you can be glad that he's your EX.

VinegArghhhWasStabbedInTheTits · 30/10/2008 20:59

Sounds a bit petty all this 'you owe me some ds time' why cant you just work things out like adults, if he doesnt priortise your ds into his routine them thats his loss, he doesnt owe you anything.

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MeMySonAndI · 30/10/2008 21:16

Are you divorced Vinegar? I used to think the same as you before all this, the thing is that as a lonely parent you need time to catch up with things that you can not do when you have to care for a child.

In my case the one afternoon off that I have during the week is used to work late at work to pay back for all the time I need to take off to cover for DS's dad.

If he doesn't "pay back" that time, my job is at risk, and tbh... it will be impossible for us to live in what ex give as mainteinance alone.

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VinegarTits · 31/10/2008 20:49

Yes i am a lone parent, i would never tell my xp that he 'owes' me to spend time with his ds.

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MeMySonAndI · 01/11/2008 09:36

Good on you.

Times owed here as just babysitting for him to travel, and for me to pay back the time at work I take to cover for him.

I really don't think there's nothing bad on that.

No offense intended, but I think you are taking the wrong end of the stick.

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