to be a bit offended by someone answering the door to me while talking on the phone?

[onthepier]

I popped round to my daughter's friend's house, knowing it was her 9th birthday in the next few days. Admittedly I didn't phone to see if they were in, but walked round there with her birthday present, my two dc's in two.

Rang the bell + no reply, was about to go when my daughter rang it again, hoping to see her friend. (They don't spend all their time together, but we all know each other + always remember birthdays).

My friend did then come to the door with the phone to her ear, broke off her phone conversation briefly to thank me for the present, a bit of small talk passed between us + then she said she'd catch up with me soon. There were no sign of her dc's + she didn't explain where they were. She wasn't exactly rude, just seemed rushed as normally she'd invite us in. My two seemed quite disappointed on the way home, not having seen their friends.

Would you think something was wrong, or just take it that she was busy? Very unlike her!

I would say that if it is very unlike her then you should assume the call was important and not be offended.

yabu - you dropped by on the off chance she was in - she was on the phone when you rang the bell, and were about to go when your daughter re-rang the bell - she probably thought it was a delivery or something etc so continued her phone call etc.

YABU. She got the call first I assume and so was unable to break it off when the doorbell went.

yabu

she clearly was busy as shown by the fact she wasn't initially going to even answer the door and she was on the phone

was she working from home maybe?

TBH, I think if you are expecting to be invited in - to play or whatever, you should phone first.

She could have been speaking to her bank, insurance company etc - she may have been in a queue for half an hour to get through to a real person.

You don't know, so I think you have to give her the benefit of the doubt.

As you said - it was very unlike her, so presumably it was a very important, personal call, that couldn't be broken off.

YABU you know you are.

You'll probably find she'll ring later to apologise. Sorry, but YABU.

Yabu and a tad oversensitive.

I always answer the door when I'm on the phone. If it's an important call, I won't even answer the door. If it's someone I have invited round, then I will ring off. yabu.

don't normally post on here but yab V u. Perhaps you're miffed because your friend decided her call was more important than you .....at that particular time. No reflection on you or your friendship - just an important call

You called round uninvited and unexpected, and expected her to drop her obviously important phone call?

yabVu

agree with stretch.

YABU - sorry but i hate dropper's in.

If it was a friend though i'd have got off the phone but maybe she stayed on the phone as an excuse not to invite you all in.

I am another one agreeing with stretch.
The alternative to answering with the phone is not to answer at all! Some phone calls are very important.

I'd say she was just busy. Some phonecalls are very important.

Don't be offended, sounds like she's normally not like this!

You should really have called first if you expected a proper visit/to see the children etc

Maybe she wasn't on the phone at all but just didn't want to feel awkward about not inviting you in.

It's half term, my house is like a tip today, we've built a camp and made fairy cakes so icing sugar everywhere. I'd be mortified if someone just dropped by now without warning. I must remember the phone decoy!

tbh I think it's very rude to answer the door when your talking to someone else
my brother does this, 'oh hang on just answering the door' 5 minute chat and then back to me. It makes the caller feel umimportant
so she was rude to answer the door when on the phone

Compo is it really rude to answer the door while you are on the phone? I couldnt ignore it as I would spent the next few hours wondering who it was or if it was important.

We get a lot of unsolicited callers around here so if I am on phone and someone comes to door I stay on phone as it is perfect excuse to get rid of salesman or Jehova's Witnesses etc. 'Sorry, can't talk, important phonecall, thankyou, bye!' etc.

YABVU
Look at it from the other point of view

"my children were out for a few hours, the only day this half term that i have a chance to catch up on everything, it's been so manic. I was on the phone when a friend turned up unannounced with their children. They rang the doorbell twice, so thinking it must be urgent i answered it only to find them there expecting to come in. They hadn't phoned or anything. They had a present for my daughter so now i feel guilty. Was i unreasonable not to invite them in?"