to not want to take DS out past his bedtime.

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I help to run a youth theatre on Wednesday evenings. My DH looks after DS who has just turned one, so I can go.

DH has had to go back to his country however as his dad is sick in hospital and I have no one else around who can babysit. I let the woman I run the group with know and she says I should just bring DS with me. He goes to bed at seven though and I don't want to disrupt his sleep routine. It was a bit of a nightmare getting him to settle at night in the first place. Plus he is tired at seven and grumpy - he needs his bed!

I feel bad that I am letting them down but I really don't want to have DS out past his bedtime. Am I being neurotic?

YANBU, You can't keep him up past his bedtime like that, I bet the woman who suggested it doesn't have young children

YANBU - hope all is ok with your dh and fil

With a child at that age, YANBU. Easy enough to be a bit more flexible when they're older, I think.

What she should have said was 'don't you worry, your dh is not here and you've got a small baby to look after, stay at home I'll manage fine on my own', why didn't she say that?
Beacause she doesn't want to run it on her own - this is why she said to bring him.

Maybe you can leave earlier to put him to bed?

And you're not letting them down, you just won't be there for one night.
You'd be letting them down if you disappeared into the night with all the ticket money, costumes and make up. So don't worry about it.

YANBU. I only keep my DCs up late on special occassions and then only 30 mins late to bed (we skip bath etc). She will just have to manage without you til DH is back. What time does the group run from and to?

It starts at 6:30 and runs till half eight. DS goes to bed at seven. I just think it would be so unsettling for him, especially with is dad away too. Thank you for the reassurance. My gut instinct is to keep my baby at home and put him to bed not drag him out and about when he should be sleeping.

YANBU, at that age my DS couldn't go more than half an hour past his bed time without getting tired and upset. Half 8 is quite late.

Plus it is half an hour away so we wouldn't be home until nine. I just think he would fall asleep on the way there then I would wake him up getting him out of the car and the same would happen on the way home.

YANBU