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should DD9 have own email and MSN?

23 replies

memoo · 28/10/2008 10:21

She wants to be able to MSN her friends, I'm really not sure whether these things are safe and wether I can control who she is able to talk too.

Am I being unreasonable if I say no? should I let her?

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KerryMumchingOnEyeballs · 28/10/2008 10:23

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SqueakyPop · 28/10/2008 10:23

She is too young for MSN.

Email OK as long as you check what goes in and out.

pingping · 28/10/2008 10:24

MSN is pretty safe as long as you keep an eye who she is giving her email address or just apporve the people she adds.

ranting · 28/10/2008 10:28

I would only let them use MSN etc when I am fully satisfied that they are completely clued up on internet safety.

Ds was about 13 when I finally let him get his own MSN account and that was only when I was happy that he was aware of the things he must/must not do. As all children are different only you can really decide when she is ready, I would say though, that if you don't know anything about MSN, Bebo etc now would be a good time to start finding out the pros and cons for yourself.

bozza · 28/10/2008 10:30

I have just set 7yo DS up with an email account. So far he has emailed his Grandad twice. I have sent him a couple of jokes from work also.

pingping · 28/10/2008 10:30

I am sure MSN you can control aspects of it. Look into it. Also I know you can set all messages to save so like Email you can see whats being said etc :-D

Original poster
memoo · 28/10/2008 10:31

Thanks guys you have confirmed what I already thought, my instinct was to say no but then I always wonder if I am a bit ott

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Ivegotaheadache · 28/10/2008 10:37

Is she your 9th daughter?

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memoo · 28/10/2008 10:38

crikey no!!!! she is 9 years old

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SqueakyPop · 28/10/2008 10:39

One of the biggest problems with MSN is not adding strangers but cyber bullying.

It can also be way too time-consuming that it eats up the leisure time when a child should really be doing something else.

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memoo · 28/10/2008 10:49

does anyone know of any safe childrens email providers?

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BloodshotEyeballsintheScarySky · 28/10/2008 10:51

LOL, beaten to it!

janeite · 28/10/2008 11:05

Lol at dd9!

9 is much too young, I feel. DD1 is 13 and doesn't have her own accounts; in fact, she doesn't even ask to use mine - they tend to phone each other instead.

onthewarpath · 28/10/2008 13:39

My fist DD is 9 and it scares me just to think about it . I think it is a bit too early, for mine anyway, yours might be better prepared.

bellavita · 28/10/2008 14:08

DS1 (11) and DS2 (9) both have their own msn and e-mail accounts - has family safety net on so any newcomers have to be approved.

noonki · 28/10/2008 14:17

I think it is a bit young for MSN, email - OK but only if you can have access to it.

And start the talk about safety (which they ignore no matter how many times you say it)

purpleduck · 28/10/2008 14:18

I wouldn't

My 14 yo niece came to visit me this summer - she has always had msn etc. The thing I was amazed at is the nastiness coming from her friends. They would have arguments, make up in typical girly style, but the things they would say were terrible.

Thing is, its much easier to say things online that you would NEVER say in real life (sound familiar anyone...?) but it is just as hurtful.

noonki · 28/10/2008 14:20

and My friend who has a 11 year old has told me horror stories of her daughter and her daughter's best friend. They always fall out and then discuss it at length on facebook with other friends but can see each other's comments (on wall).

They ahve bothe been incredibly hurt at times and tbh they are lovely girls.

Her daughter said to her once that she was giving up MSN as there was no escape from her friends - and that was when they were getting on

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memoo · 28/10/2008 17:11

Thats really worrying,

DD does have problems with one girl at school, they are friends at the moment but fall out on a regular basis, and this girl often has DD in tears.

This girl has MSN, email etc and the thought of her being able to get to DD like that is upsetting.

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IllegallyBrunette · 28/10/2008 17:14

Both my dd's have their own email account and msn.

They very rarely go on them (something to do with someone always being on the computer ), and when they do use them I tend to be hovering in the background.

They have rules about giving out their email addys etc and if they break them then they don't use it.

DraculaNeedsArteries · 28/10/2008 17:27

Someone I know has a child who is 9.

As a result of his MSN/email networks he has been introduced to a website called

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Now if you can work out why I have posted the name in that format you will know why this is a problem.

Now I know that this is an indirect consequence of haviong free access to teh web more than email or MSN directly....but nevertheless....

mumeeee · 28/10/2008 22:49

Yes to email no to MSB

ceciliaaherne · 28/10/2008 23:00

My dd (8) has e mail account but I know exactly who is in her address book and vet the one or two e mails she gets/sends a month (she doesn't know this)

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