For the past two years I have cooked xmas lunch for us all, first year 8 months pregnant and last year DS's first Christmas but have enjoyed both! However, this year I wanted my mum to come to dinner as she has had a tough two years with illness and had a bone marrow transplant last month so couldnt see ds for over 6 weeks! I wanted her to be here with ds for Christmas as I know she would love this and she is delighted to have been asked. Because of this though, I don't have enough room to have DP's half as well (as my mum comes as a package with her husband, my nana, aunt, uncle and cousin as they all were supposed to be having dinner together so I didn't want to say that my mum and her husband were invited but not the others). Also, if I'm honest, I didn't really want mil here when my mum was here as when she is here with ds my mum doesnt get a look in. Mil picks him up all the time and everytime my mum is sat or playing with him MIL will try and get his attention with treats! ds is closer to MIL as he ses her three times a week and as my mum has been ill for all of his life he has not been able to see her as much as I would have liked.
DP's bro said he would love to cook dinner for MIL and the others so all that was sorted, they were all then going to come over here in the evening. But now mil has taken a strop and has said she is not seeing anyone this xmas day (she hasnt said that its because she is not coming here, she said its because otherwise everyone will be rushing around and it will mean no-one enjoys their day which is nonsense but I think she is playing the martyr). At first I thought well, its your loss but now dp's dad has implied that we should have just invited my mum and her husband but not the others so MIL and her partner could come and has made me feel like I am being unreasonable.
Soooo, aibu to make this xmas day special for my mum but at the expense of others?