to tell my friend she stinks of smoke?

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My friend has recently been on a weight loss kick and smokes a lot. At first I didn't notice but now I can smell smoke on her before I am close. Her house and car smell and when her DS came for tea the other day his clothes smell. I don't want to hurt her feelings. What would you do? Would you say anything??

I know a few smokers at work adn have commented a few times when they come back that they reek of smoke.
If they dont like it then they can give up.
I used to smoke and I wouldn't have been offended if someone said that to me.

You can't say anything. She probably hopes that the mints/regular toothbrushing etc masks it. But it comes from deep inside the lungs! So all smokers smell of smoke.

She might not realise that she smells - my parents smoked when I was a child and I never realised that they and I stank to high heaven until a teacher said something to me at school and I was really upset. I told my parents but they didn't believe it . Now my mum has given up and is the worst person for criticising others who smoke and smell, but she still doesn't accept that she stank because she always had the windows open, apparently!

Poor child, smelling of smoke. That is horrible.

I wouldn't say anything. She smokes, it's not a hanging offence, it's an addiction.

I did once say something to a mum at preschool, but slightly different, and she thanked me.

She reeked of booze, every morning , I thought rather me say something than them get SS on the case.

As someone who grew up inhaling my mum's passive smoke for 20 odd years, I think that if you don't stand up for this little boy's lungs then who will?

My mum claims ignorance because it was the 70's blah blah... But your friend should know better than to smoke around a child nowadays - which she must do because you smelt it on him.
If you tell her you're really distressed about saying anything because you don't want to make her feel bad or lose her friendship, she should respect it. And hopefully sort it out!

my mum smokes heavily and her house is yellow and stinks. Everything she posts to us stinks and clothes have to be washed before use. I never mentioned this until when pg with 1st child when she sent me baby clothes and I mentioned washing them. She asked why and I told her. She was hurt but this hasnt affected her addiction. I hated taking little babies into her house. Its awful but difficult to bring up in a sensitive way.

Is it not a bit the same problem as when a friend has really bad breath or smells like they never shower? Would you not want to be told about that either?

Pushchair - I could have written that! My mum lives nearby and we frequently come close to run-ins over her fags and ds. [anger]
I#m an ex smoker, btw. Totally sanctamonius.

I agree More, then add to that it's affecting her child and there's even more reason...

After all if your friend was getting drunk before breastfeeding you'd feel compelled to say something wouldn't you? Passive smoking gives people lung cancer. My dad who has never smoked has had lung problems for years living with my mum before she gave up.

No don't say anything, she's a smoker, she will smell of smoke and that's that.

A very close friend told me my children always smell of garlic not long ago. I know I should actually take it as a compliment (as in we eat yummy food), and I think that's how she meant it, but I do feel a little and paranoid about it now.

The 'garlic thing resonates with me. I'm sure my children often smell of herbs and cooking smells given their bedroom is right next to the kitchen. I don't mind, I hope no one else does.

Lot's of families have a certain 'smell ' about them. I know the smell of smoke is a different matter but, meh, live and let live.