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I don't think I am but.....

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FlameThrowersKillZombies · 23/10/2008 07:47

AIBU not to take DS to art group?

He loves it, but it involves a lot of me leaning over to help him, and my tooth/root/gap throbs whenever I lean over

I feel mean not taking him (plus I lose money), but at the same time I feel like crap and will end up feeling worse there.

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AbbeyA · 23/10/2008 08:01

How old is he? Can't you just leave him to get on with it and sit down and wait?

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FlameThrowersKillZombies · 23/10/2008 08:08

not really - he's 2.8 and it is a big bit of paper on the floor attacking with paint kind of thing

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AbbeyA · 23/10/2008 08:10

In that case, if you are not up to it, be kind to yourself and give it a miss.

mooog · 23/10/2008 08:14

Cant you just do some art at home until your tooth feels better.
Tell him it is his own private art class.

Libra1975 · 23/10/2008 08:29

Personally I think it's hideous that you are putting your needs above that of your childs, he needs all the time possible to express himself and frankly if you think you are more important than the child you shouldn't have had kids

Koshka · 23/10/2008 08:30

what?

KatyMac · 23/10/2008 08:32

Flame - toothache is awful

I would treat yourself very carefully for a while

1 session is not so bad - unless you have a phone number to ring to see if someone from the organisers can help

cory · 23/10/2008 08:35

psml at libra

Koshka · 23/10/2008 08:36

god for a minute i thought you were being serious

Upwind · 23/10/2008 08:37

Libra

Flame, I know you can get some very strong over the counter pain killers that work well with toothache. Skip the art class and get thee to a chemist.

CharCharBaGOOOOOOORE · 23/10/2008 08:37

Stay at home, put your feet up as much as you can. He won't mind missing one session. You've had a horrible time with that tooth, look after yourself. Hope it feels better soon.

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FlameThrowersKillZombies · 23/10/2008 08:37

Please tell me she is joking?? If she isn't, I will sit her in a chair for an hour, bash about her tooth and mouth and still not finish the job. Then see how creative hands on parenty she feels!

I have sent a text to a mate asking if she is about for a visit instead - that way he will get to do something even if it is not painting.

Going to stick my head in at school and explain what's up to the lady who runs it (everyone has their own child/ren to sort, so no-one to supervise mine too iyswim)

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FlameThrowersKillZombies · 23/10/2008 08:39
  • sorry, not taking humour well today.

I have strong pills, but need to be able to drive today, so am stuck with paracetamol.

Arse - should have left for school 10 mins ago

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Libra1975 · 23/10/2008 08:48

Sorry I was joking, if I had a toothache like yours I would probably on to the phone to my mother asking if she would like some granny time (aka taking DS off my hands). There just seem to be a few threads on here where I just seem to want to shout GIVE YOURSELF A BREAK YOU ARE NOT A SUPERWOMAN and others where I just think get off your smug thoroughbred high horse. Your post is the former but I replied as if I was the latter.

As for creative hands on parenty, about 20 minutes ago I stuck my 15 week old in front of babytv whilst I drink tea, eat toast and MN. Hardly a shiny example of parenthood!

sunnygirl1412 · 23/10/2008 09:18

Libra is right - give yourself a break, love, and get some help with your ds if you can. I was going to ask if another parent at the Art class could help your ds as well as their dc, but I see that won't fly.

You are being the very best parent you can - and looking after yourself so you are healthy, happy and at the top of your game is good for your ds too.

Hugs.

doingmyheadin · 23/10/2008 09:41

Despite the pressures we put ourselves under as parents - most 2 year olds' development or happiness will not suffer because they miss an art class - or indeed never go to one. You are obviously a great mum to be worried about it and to be investing in your child's future. Take it easy and put the telly on!

PsychoAxeMurdererMum · 23/10/2008 09:49

of course you are being unreasonable.

same as last week when we let HIM put cake above his painting needs!!!!

hope you are less hurty

Troutpout · 23/10/2008 09:49

fgs girl
cut yourself some slack
tooth ache is hideous
even more hideous than having to endure an art group with toddlers imo..so therefore the toothache wins

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FlameThrowersKillZombies · 23/10/2008 09:52

Art group is normally good

I went in to say I wasn't going whilst the lady was setting up - they were doing making halloween stuff (hats etc) so it really would have been hands on - made the right choice

Libra

I have driven round in circles for the last 50 mins... he is now asleep, so I am going to curl up with my book. (I will NOT be mentioning this to DH as he is expecting a quiet afternoon with sleeping boy today )

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