to not want to do this for my MIL?

[purplemonkeydishwasher]

SInce DS was born 3 years ago she has taken it upon herself to give gifts to people (her mother, her BIL) featuring photos of DS.
THe last couple of years it's been a calendar.
THat's bad enough. but she also expects ME to pick out pictures for it and in fact go out and take spcific ones for specific months. (last year we were at the garden centre trying to get one of DS looking at the christmas decorations)

AIBU to be annoyed that (a) she is giving this gift out. (i feel that it's the type of thing taht a grandmother should GET not GIVE)
and (b) that I HAVE TO DO ALL THE WORK FOR HER. (and she starts bugging me about it in September)
ok ok it;s not a lot of work but it's not as if she never sees the kid,. she could snap a photo now and then.

DH thinks IABU BTW.
What do you think?

I think it's a bit weird for a grandparent to do this... do the people she's giving the calendars to even want them? No offence to your DS, I'm sure he's gorgeous, but a whole calendar of a child that isn't one's own wouldn't really appeal to most people, surely? Personally I would 'forget' to take the photos and make her do it if she's so keen.

YANBU, I would be annoyed. He is your DS and you want naturally want to send this type of thing out yourself. However, that said it is too late and it should have been nipped in the bud earlier, if you say anything now it sounds like WW3 would break out!
I agree with most of the others let her do it but get her to take the pictures the lazy cow, especially the different locations for different months-outrageous! Tell her she can have him for the day and take the pictures and make out like it will be fun that way cos she will have taken them herself and it's all her effort. Hope that helps.

thanks everyone
a couple of points:

• I would have nipped it in the bud the first time but the first time she did it with pictures we had given her on cd and didn't tell us.
• "And it could be something that you do together." yeah, it could be but it's not. she just bugs ME to do it. A LOT.

and Ruby - LOL

only just read your thread.....tell her you are too busy with children .....and get out there and give it a go herself...not fair to have you do it all and then take all the bloody credit!

I have made a decision!
i think that if this is the way it's going to be (and it probably will be) I will give her a cd or 12 pcitures to use. not all of DS. some of all of us. some of drawings that he's done.
and tell her that i'd really like to have our names on the gift as well.
not fair that I do all the work and she gets all the credit.

Or just take loads of crap, blurred photos and she will eventually give up asking you and do it herself.