Another SPD thread sorry - AIBU to refuse to sleep on an airbed?

[babymt]

I apologise this is another SPD thread. But I really have no idea if I'm being unreasonable or not.

I'm 13 weeks pregnant and my spd is playing up already. If I do alot in a day, for example walking round the shops or lifting my youngest up the stairs (shes 2) then I get so seized up and its obviously painful. Luckily its not too bad because I'm only 13 weeks and not got that big a bump yet.

Last time I was preg it was sooooo bad I started not being able to go out because the pain was so bad and I didn't hardly get off the sofa for the last 6 weeks. I'm trying my hardest to do everything by the book to avoid the pain this time.

Now dh wants us to go stay at his sisters next weekend but shes only got single airbeds that we can sleep on. The thought of sleeping on an airbed makes me almost want to cry tbh. I know I'll hardly sleep because it will be painful (I already wake several times in night in pain) and even getting up off floor will be a huge challenge. Theres no sofa for me to sleep on even. I don't know what to do! Dh really wants to go and thinks I'm just making excuses because I don't want to stay (which I don't).

So AIBU to refuse to go? Or should I just go and suffer? What I also think is relevent is that we're going to be out all the day before walking around a zoo so I know the spd will be playing up before I'm even asleep.

I could either say we all have to come home or I won't go at all and he can stay.

God, please don't sleep on the airbed. I'm 20 wks now and two trips away recently gave me a day of pain at least each time.

Also, you don't know at wich point your body will stop recovering from it IYKWIM. First 2 nights away 3 weeks ago my body seemed to reset after 2 nights home. But since staying away at brother in law's house on a saggy bed last week, not all the twinges have gone. YOu really need to protect yoursef. We've now told family we're playing Xmas by ear (it's a drive from London to Lancs) for the very bed reason.

How about giving them the chance to offer, e.g. say that you'd love to go, but fear the airbed will render you useless and in pain the next day, they surely would offer their bed off their own backs then?

p.s. stop lifting your 2year old up the stairs lady! My two year old son walks every time now, he understands daddy will lift but mummy won't.

It's a pain when he won't co-operate as I feel at his mercy, but I bribe him with raisins on those occasions!
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my pil made me sleep on the floor when i was 7 mp! Asked us over but there was no spare beds. I still resent them for it. YANBU. I wish i had the guts to refuse!

Lotster - I don't lift her if shes awake. She walks up the stairs herself and into the car, her booster seat, etc. But I'm totally at a lost end what to do when shes asleep and I'm home alone?

hollyandnoah - OMG re sleeping on floor!!!!!

YANBU. I've suffered with SPD in both my pregnancies and cannot imagine having to sleep on an airbed.

have you seen a physio, by the way? I started seeing one at 16 weeks this time and it has been a lot better this time(been doing some simple exercises and following her advice on positions to avoid religiously). I'm still in pain, especially at night, but at 35 weeks pregnant I am still bale to walk, do housework, bend down etc. This time last pregnancy I was on crutches!

Hi babymt, yes that is a bummer when they are asleep... Apart from make her wait till she gets upstairs, or leave her in buggy? Don't know hon...

Like Mrs Mattie I really recommend Physio, or in my case an osteopath. I see him fortnightly and it's quite expensive but it's so worth it. Am 20weeks and still just a few twinges at night which I can't believe, last time was horrid. Just so hard to find time to do the excersises with a toddler around, must get more motivated...

Best bit of advice from Obstetric physio was " always behave as if you have a short skirt and no knickers on", that way you stay symmetrical and ladylike!

lmao! That's such good advice Lotster. I'll be doing that from now on.... (that's pretending I have a short skirt with no pants, not actually wearing a short skirt commando-style!)

Don't walk around all day either. Seriously. You are not malingering.

I am seeing an osteopath next week.

And re original subject I'm not longer going!!! WOOHOO! Not only peace and quiet for a whole weekend but not having to deal with the inlaws! So pleased! I think dh is going to have an awful time coping with the kids but tough! LOL

And re lifting sleeping baby upstairs...doesn't help if shes fallen asleep in car as can't really leave her out there....especially if its at night!

I'll try the short skirt with no knicks pretending. Not that I've ever done that but I reckon I can use my imagination!