to tell dd2 NOT to play fight with some of the dads from school?

[Eniddo]

they encourage a bunch of girls to hit them and catch them
2 different dads do this - one I know vaguely, he is a nice guy.

dd2 (6) and 3 or 4 other girls hit and try and fight them

I really hate it and today told dd2 to stop and not to do it any more. It just seems disrespectful to an adult who she hardly knows to behave like this, even though the men encourage it.

I totally get what you are saying about your DD's going all silly when certain male friends are around,my little dd was exactly the same..and yes my dad was great if me and my sister fancied a bit of rough and tumble....but how would you feel if a bloke you dont know to well,not to mention not even knowing the other fella wants to start play fighting with your pre-school dd.
Dont know about you but I still think its a bit dodgy!!

Do girls generally like to playfight then? I've got boys so don't really know about girls, but when my neighbours daughter used to come round and play with my ds's I was shocked by her playfighting. With no encouragement at all she was jumping on, kicking, karate chopping ds1. Poor lad was totally shocked and didn't know what to do, so he just sat there while she laid into him. Who has instigated the playfighting - the girls or the dads?

oh dd2 thinks its great

but clearly the dads instigate it as she doesnt start to randomly bash anyone else

she felt embarrassed that I asked her to stop

we'll see what happens

yes can see it could be a non sexual form of 'pre-flirting'

anyway it irritates me

it seems too familiar, I wouldnt care two hoots if she bashed her uncles or dad or summat

I wonder why the dads do that? I would be annoyed as I would presumably end up with a wired up child to take home.

well the first one that starting doing it I think was doing it with his own dd and a group of her mates (inc dd2) joined in

the second one (the supposedly abusive father ) randomly started doing it

Yes it's the difference between someone you know really well like your uncle or dad and an almost stranger that would be the problem for me not the actual playfighting.

well I spoke loudly enough so the dads could hear me

and moaned crossly to the MIL of the other dad who does it

so I reckon they will all get to hear about the moody mum who ddoesnt let her dd playfight

I dont really want to speak direclty to the dads tbh

dittany - it would only be yuck if the dads were flirting.

the dads arent flirting

it is all innocent of any of that kind of shenanigans

its just bloody annoying and inappropriate imo