to have thrown a tantrum last night....lol

[Nemoandthefishes]

seriously though I threw a fit last night and told dh he was a selfish wanker..
It was about 2am and I had been up since midnight with ds and dd2 and their variety of needs
Anywyas the night before I had been up with dd1 who was ill and sat on the couch with her all night. I am about 6wks pg and also have a chest infection that the gp wont prescribe anything for due to 'new guidelines' in pregnancy
So by 2am I absolutely lost my temper..stomped into our bedroom and basically gave dh a mouth load of abuse for being a lazt barstard...so was I being unreasonable?

Was he being a lazy bastard?

Does he normally "help"?
Why didn't you ask for "help"?
YANBU at having a tantrum if he was being deliberately annoying and refusing to help, but YABU if you normally do all night time duties and don't let him help.

Talk to him today and say he needs to take his share in the night.

Congrats on the baby.

he has never really got up with them of a night and my trio are notoriously bad sleepers. We have had this row many times before and the last 6mths he has tried to help with the dds as they can be up 8-9 times a night between them. However he has always declared that he just cant hear them ad yes that would be even when they are bouncing on his head

its not that I dont 'let' him help I have tried waking him gently and even kicked him in the past but he just doesnt shift and instead snores louder

May I draw your attention to rule 87(B), clause (iii), third para of the Sleepless Parent's Handbook, which clearly states that in the event of more than one child waking, tantrums thrown by pregnant women between the hours of midnight and 5am are entirely mitigated and acceptable.

In that case YANBU

Congrats on the pregnancy

I've heard an ice cold flannel over the face stops the snoring. Not a glass of water, you'll wet your bed, and then where will you sleep while DH settles the kids?

oh that so sounds like my OH,he too says he doesn't hear him but i can tell,in the way his breathing changes that he can.He only helps when i start moaning(his words)and then its only for a short time and then revets back to the norm " sorry i didn't ear him"
I feel for you with 3 and constantly getting up.
I only have 1 and only occasionaly now do i have to get up to him.
As for my OH well i realised that he wasn't going to change so now i grin and bear it

Could you change things so he gets up earlier to allow you to sleep in or comes to bed later and deals with time during that time?
I wouldn't expect someone who is working (I'm assuming you're a SAHM here) to get up in the middle of the night but to cut their sleep time short one end is reasonable, IMO.

Ask him why he is being such a tit about letting his children cry longer than they need to if you settled one each, and also why doesn't he want to support his goddess of a wife who is carrying his baby?