To think that an explanation of 'inappropriate clothing' might be a good idea?

[LadyGlencoraPalliser]

DD1 has her first ever secondary school disco tonight. The ticket came with a warning on the back that children who arrived in 'inappropriate clothing or fancy dress' would be turned away and not allowed to attend another school disco ever again.

DD1 is now worried that her pink and black prom-style dress and footless black tights will be inappropriate.

I tried to reassure her that I would not let her out the door in inappropriate clothing and that it undoubtedly meant low cut tops and skirts that showed your knickers, but she doesn't trust me!

IABU to think the school should be a bit less cryptic in detailing the dress code for these things? And what's with the fancy dress prohibition anyway ?

That could mean anything, are football tops inappropriate, are t-shirts, maybe her dress is

YANBU

I'm not sure what the thing is with fancy dress, but i hear it more and more with no good explination why.

I'm sure you're right about low cut etc and if they just said that it would be reasonable, but since the line between inappropriate and appropriate is a matter of opinion the threat "and not allowed to attend another school disco ever again" is way over the top.

YANBU, how are you supposed to know what is inappropriate? A bit harsh to say that they would be basically banned from future discos!

YANBU.

Inappropriate is in the eye of the beholder surely?

have you tried asking the school for a definition of inappropriate? bit daft of them not to make it clear, especially with such a big threat.

i'm sure they just mean slogan t-shirts with swearing on and other similar stuff

LittleMy - DD only got the ticket yesterday and it was bedtime when she told me I needed to sign the back to say I had read the terms and would comply. No chewing gum is the other rule, am happy to comply with that.

YANBU, there should be some explanantion.

Is your DD1 at school today? Can she ask her tutor or someone what it means?
Or do you know anyone with older DC at the same school who can help?
Failing those, I'd ring the school and ask - if the secretary gets fed up with people asking then maybe next time they'll be more specific!

No tits, tums and bums would be what the school is thinking I imagine.

Well, she's back, they let her in and she had a great time.