To be soooo angry that dp has just failed his 2nd exam?

[lauraloola]

I am so mad. Dp is training with a bank to become a Financial Advisor and took his 2nd exams today.

He passed one part and failed one part - Exactly the same as his first exam. By one mark.

He is now going to have to pay for to retake both parts and its going to put him back a few more months before he can qualify.

I am so angry with him. Maybe if he hadnt have stayed up until late on his computer game he would have been alright.

Am I being unreasonable? Last time I was really nice to him about failing but this time I just want to shout at him.

YANBU just don't act on it. I failed an exam once and it set us back 5 months (and another £420, plus nights spents studying etc.) I felt under a lot of pressure second time round. Despite the extra study I really felt I'd done far worse than the first time. I did stay off MN for a whole month, so taht might have helped

YANBU - living with people who are studying is not always pleasant. It doesn't just affect the people who are studying but all those who live with them. I am a pain in the butt, I am sure my DH would agree, when I am revising or doing a big assignment and I know he was when he was doing exams. It hangs over your head and affects family life.

Knowing that you have to go through that all over again is enough to make you cross, especially if you believe he didn't try his best. Failing is OK if you do the exams justice and give them your best shot but not if you didn't.

This guy could be putting his new career at risk. I was made redundant as a result of not doing very well in professional exams and it maybe that in these difficult economic times, he has made his position at work more precarious.

I do agree that you have to bite your tongue though. I am sure you are both disappointed but save the criticism. He has to feel supported and that you are on his side if he is going to get through them on the third attempt.

I bit my toungue and was nice to him. He was gutted when he got home last night and I really think my rant on here got it out of my system and made me realise I was being a bit mean. Thanks x

I would be angry too, but then I am usually quite irrational and unsympathetic.

Laura - has he/have you made a plan on how to tackle it next time? When are the next exams? After I failed mine last September I had a better idea of what's required, what to focus on, what to disregard. A lot of it was learning by rota which meant putting time aside for this, no huge intellectual challenge, just time. i think it was important to work out what I needed to do.