To be annoyed that mil showed my ds1 how to use her kitchen stairgate

[NOgirlsallowed]

OK at 3 years old I fully realise that alot of children have already found this one out for themselves and it will only be a matter of time before mine does! On sunday we were at my mils and we noticed a stairgate over her kitchen. (She's always been anti stairgates. Rather surprised and mil said they were for her boys (her puppys). Anyway later on ds1 asked me how to open it. I refused to explain and told him they're to keep little boys safe/out of harm etc. Mil joked human boys and doggy boys! Anyway shortly afterwards I was feeding ds2 his tea in the garden (sunday was a lovely day) when I heard mil not only explaining how to open the gate but getting him to go it himself to make sure he understood. Like I said its only a matter of time etc but I was not going to be the one to explain especially as his 11 month old brother depends on them for his safety! Didn't say anything at the time as I was caught up with ds2 and then one thing after another and the moment was lost! I was however very annoyed thinking about it later! aibu?

no if course you aren;t!!

that's a really silly thing for her to do,esp if your kids are going to share a bedroom later a three year old doesn;t really get why he shouldn;t open the gate for a younger sibling and would just do it

Not sure why you're annoyed about it. Ds1 was perfectly capable of knowing that he had to shut the gates after himself when he was 3.

In fact it was better that he could get through them by himself than having him whining at the gates when he wanted to go up or down the stairs!!

what you need to do now is train your DS to go into Granny's kitchen and ransack the flour cupboard.....

(mine could do it at 3 too)

Stinkyfeet - DS is perfectly capable of understanding he has to shut the gate behind himself whether he would is an entirely different matter lots of jealousy issues at the moment with him also its the whole thing of relying on a 3 yr old for such a crucial area of safety. It was also more that mil heard me say no and give my reasons and she waited till she thought I was out of the way/out of earshot or so she thought and then explained etc.
Tommy lol!
Anyway this particular stairgate is different to the ones we've got at home. More complicated imo my dh had to explain it to me at which point he said I was having a blond moment! I told him off for being sexist. (I'm not blond btw!)

In that case, no you're not being unreasonable. Hopefully he won't work out how to open yours at home.

Hope the jealousy wears off soon - that can't be making things easy for you

dont' see that it matters of it is a different type of gate although I am sure he would work it our for himself before long. And I speak as a mother who spent a night on the children's ward with her 11mo after her 3yo left the gate open at the top of the stairs. They are 7 and 4 now.