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To hate facebook

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thesockmonsterofdoom · 12/10/2008 18:31

everytime I log on I feel old and sad and fat and boring, all my friends appear to be doing cool stuff and nobody evens sends me any pesonal messages just tatt. there are loads of picas of all my mates looking cool and going out clubbing and being wild, looking skinny and young and fun, I used to be there too.

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Wezzle · 12/10/2008 19:46

Lol symptomchecker, you haven't seen my profile pic then!

I'm gurning with my 2 DDs

twinsetandpalls · 12/10/2008 20:00

My pictures are horrific, sadly they are my best ones

trumpetgirl · 12/10/2008 20:01

I love it and hate it.
I keep getting friend requests from people I haven't thought about in years and have no desire to let into my life, but accept the request as I don't want to be nasty!
I mainly use it to arrange to meet people for coffee, and to stay in touch with a couple of friends who have moved away recently.
Although I have been talked into playing pirates, which is a complete waste of my life, and very dull but also quite addictive!

PuzzleRocks · 12/10/2008 20:08

Yes everyone I know posts "kerrrazy" pics of them out every bloody night of the week and constantly bang on about hangovers. Just makes me look at DH and DD when i'm snuggled up on the sofa on a Saturday night,looking shit and pregnant, and think "thank Christ I don't have to do all that crap anymore".

catsmother · 12/10/2008 20:32

Ha ...... admittedly I'm not fat (well, not anymore anyway) but I am boring in comparism to many FB friends, who all seem to be off on holiday here there and everywhere, off on weekends away (when I'm working most weekends), off to concerts and comedy nights, and whose pictures are often very glam with lovely hair, lovely clothes and nice make up. It's not that I don't want to be going on holiday too, just that I can't bloody afford it.

I have caught up with people I've not seen in years and in that respect it's good, but I admit I've had a few pangs of feeling like I am well and truly stuck in a rut (for all sorts of reasons) when I see past friends and acquaintances with great jobs or enjoying life in a new country .... and then you can't help feeling where did you go wrong etc. Oh well.

snowleopard · 12/10/2008 20:42

I hate it. I don't do FB, but I have a basic page so that I can be on it and people can contact me that way if they need to - but for the first 6 months or so I got endless messages saying "XX has thrown a wet sponge at you" and "XX wants you to join the campaign group 'vom on Paris Hilton' " blah de blah de blah. Now I don't have a problem with wasting time (I am on MN) but I can't be doing with the way you all have to act as if you're 15. "XX has poked you" - oh feck off.

But wasn't Hecate on here saying all her former schoolfriends on FB were all wizened and grey? You need her friends sockmonster!

trumpetgirl · 12/10/2008 21:03

Does noone but me get that thing where an ex-boyfriend (who dumped you) friend requests you and has become ugly, and done nothing with their life, and their girlfriend looks like a trollop? I love that!!!
I suppose people probably laugh at me too, but I'm quite happy with my life at the moment, and I'm looking forward to where it will go, so I don't care

wehaveallbeenthere · 13/10/2008 01:33

trumpetgirl, lol, it sounds like your ex did you a favor. Just tell him that you mind boggied him into thinking he dumped you...blah, blah and in reality you actually ditched him.
For anyone else that feels you are too old, fat, whatever just stop already. Life is a relative thing. Stop measuring yourselves against old friends or acquaintances. Your life is the only one that matters to you. If someone else is famous, or rich or a nobody or poor...it has little to no bearing on you.
So...peel off that wet sponge and turn your back on that campaign and just live.
God I luv MN. My name makes more sense everytime I log on and read these threads.

candyfluff · 13/10/2008 06:39

BITOFFUN- that painting your dp did of you is fab very nice gift to give someone

superloopy · 13/10/2008 06:47

I am addicted to fb - but laugh at my SIL updates. No matter what she writes for every update, I could reply "Oh you poor thing". She is a total sympathy chaser and it is so predictably funny for me now!

I don't have all those stupid applications where you can throw Britney Spears at someone, buy drinks for people or get sent stupid fun wall videos. I looked at them then deleted them.

I just use it to keep in touch with friends as I am too lazy to keep in touch with via email.

Koshka · 13/10/2008 06:53

All of my friends are prettyer and thinner than me, but they always were.

i look at some profiles and just want to cry!

but also there are people with kids who are always out, going on holiday and stuff, no sign of their DC. that makes mne sad.

symptomchecker · 13/10/2008 09:47

well,i posted on here after a few drinks last night.in actual fact,as long as my kids are safe and healthy and happy i actually couldn't give a monkeys about anyone else's life either...IYKWIM!!!!

Simplysally · 13/10/2008 09:53

I tend to just play scrabble on FB and the occasional game of Pirates.

Other than that, I don't do much on there.

symptomchecker · 13/10/2008 09:55

i was playing a game of scrabble "forever" then it suddenly disappeared!!!

VictorianSqualorSquelchNSquirm · 13/10/2008 09:57

I love facebook.
But I'm one of those who moved away froma ll my friends and am estranged from ym mother so hadn't seen or spoken to my cousins for years, and I left school at 15 when I was a bit of a twat so didn't keep in touch with school friends. Now I get to speak to these peopel daily if I want and can keep up with what is going on with them.
Maybe I'm lucky, but my friends are normal people who don't have massive high-flying careers, parties and b list celeb friends. They are either people who worked hard to get to a nice stable job and now want/are having children or people who got PG younger and are now forging a career for themselves.

CherryChapstick · 13/10/2008 09:57

Me too, sockmonster. Come and be my friend, you can find me (Goober) on the MN wall. We can be frumpy together.

ForeverOptimistic · 13/10/2008 10:01

I quite like it because I am by nature very nosey .

I was quite surprised by the number of people that still seem to enjoy going out to clubs, getting pissed and telling all and sundry about their hangovers. I am 36 now, I was past that stage about 12 years ago. I enjoy being boring.

choccynutter · 13/10/2008 10:02

i don't mind it found some old friends that have'nt seen in years which was great also had old er aquetences (spelt wrong) i didn't want to hear from but at least you can jst ignor them or block them i don't bother with all the stupid bullshit poking ect jst piccys and messages

FlutterbyButterfly · 13/10/2008 10:10

no I don't think you are being unreasonable about it. I hate it too as my DP has signed on to it and his cruel family (who I don't get on with) keep getting his exes to contact him to cause big arguments!

lucykatie · 13/10/2008 17:55

i do love it...BUT...it can lead to alot of heartache too!!!

needmorecoffee · 13/10/2008 17:57

someone explain it to me. I joined but I have no idea what it all means [blush/

GameOn · 13/10/2008 18:06

YABU.
Facebook is not a problem. The problems that arise from facebook are either stemmed from your own insecurities or lack of fulfilment or they're stupid people shagging around type problems which means your DH/P is a dick anyway.

girlsnightout · 13/10/2008 18:24

Deactivated my accounts today as I have realised that I have no friends and yet somehow I can't seem to care

ilovemyghds · 13/10/2008 18:47

Find it handy as lots of my friends live away and is a more instant way of keeping in touch than email. I only use it to put a few pics of DCs on, send messages and see what people are up to (not the extra stuff, poking etc). Have not accepted friend requests from people i am not to keen on so avoid hearing updates on things I am not interested in.

I am pretty sure that those who's lives seem glam and better than yours are not really. They just put on their best photo on the profile and don't mention anything bad that has happened.

NomDePlume · 13/10/2008 18:50

I hate it too. Dull.

All those people who say they live away from family/friends. I do too but I use email, text and telephone to keep in touch. Facebook et al just seem puerile.

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