This makes me really sad actually.
But I am getting to the point where I don't feel I can take much more.
She is in her eighties and has always been very mean to my mother - in a snidey, pA sort of way. Which my mother deals with and almost I think quite likes as she has someone to be cross with/about. Mum does a lot for her and never gets any thanks. Basically they wind each other up.
I have not had an easy relationship with Grandmother either. She tends to talk about me behind my back to mum, and any gesture I make (presents etc) is sort of dissed really. Last week I was looking after Mum's cat and G.mother lives right near them, but I didn't go and see her - instead I put a note through her door to say sorry but I had had a nasty bug and didn't want to pass it on. This was absolutely true - she doesn't know how nasty exactly but if she did she wouldn't want me there!
Anyway she told mum that she didn't believe it and that either I was pregnant again or 'afraid of my own grandmother'.
I am guessing that Mum has made it clear she is hiding something from G mother (which she is - if G mother knew I'd been that ill she wouldn't have let mum in the house either!) and that mum is getting some pleasure from stirring things (hotly denied if I even bothered to ask, which I shan't)
anyway I am totally hurt and offended by this - every time I try to be nice she just slams it really. At the moment I feel like I never want to give her any presents or write to her or anything again, as it is treated with such derision.
It's her birthday in 2 weeks and I had planned a really nice present but now I think I will just take it back to the shop.
AIBU? I know she is a miserable old lady but the family politics and manipulation is doing my head, frankly