To ask my friend's son to take his shoes off

[bonnibaby]

because he started standing on my sofa?
My friend's son is 3, a very sweet boy but i wouldnt let my kids do that and my friend didnt say anything to him but looked really miffed that i did,this was after about 5 mins of biting my lip...

yanbu, which you already know.
I wouldn't have bit my lip for 5 mins, I would have told him to get down.

I'd have removed him from my sofa to be honest - can't bear children standing on my furniture.

I would have distracted him initially but if that didn't work i would have said 'hey no standing on furniture in this house children' with a smile though.

YANBU, your friend should have done it before he started standing on your sofa... or carpet.

YANBU I would've done too.

He wasnt jumping or anything which is why i felt awkward but just standing up next to his mum like kids do sometimes i suppose ,it was the fact that he had his shoes on that bothered me.

I still think that 3 is too old to stand on furniture.

Also if you don't let your own children do it - too confusing for them to let other children do it.

YANBU.
I frequently ask my friends' kids to do things according to my rules in my house, and I expect them to do the same.

YANBU your house your rules

as others have said, your friend should have made him take them off straight away

YANBU. I dont let my own kids stand on my old knackered sofa, with or without shoes. Certainly dont think they should be standing on anyone else's.

YANBremotelyU... and fair play to you having the confidence to say it.

Here's what I do:

1. boil with resentment
2. bite lip
3. secretly hope one of my own dcs will do it too so then I can say 'No no no, sonofhardbroom, we certainly don't stand on furniture, do we?'
4. shame friend into making hers get down too.

but then, I am a terrible parent.

I wouldn't even let him stand on the sofa, shoes or no shoes! Your house, your rules.

YANBU
ds is 16 and his mates all leave their shoes at the door, always have done, as fo letting him stand on the sofa, no way.

I make all DCs take off shoes at the door.