To think it is NOT THAT HARD to make an edible lunch?

[MinkyBorage]

DH is off out this afternoon, and agreed to make lunch for DDs and I before he went.

He put a tin of tomatoes and a tin of tuna in a frying pan and heated it up. Then he cooked some pasta until it was so far overcooked it was like yesterdays pasta iykwim.

Result: Disgusting. I managed two polite mouthfulls before he left. Dds were also still eating when he left but gave up very soon afterwards.

I know I should be glad he's actually cooked something, and tbh I was before I tasted it, but it's just such a ridiculous waste of food. What is the point??? I'm sick of having to do bloody everything!

There is nothing else I can delegate to him.

Can he drive?

Is his care a wrecked, unmaintained heap, fit only for the scrapyard because he doesn't know how to do basic tasks with it?

Thought not.

I know dittany, that's how it feels sometimes.

He is a terrible driver, I passed my test in March and do all our driving now. he gets car cleaned regularly, but can't perform any basic tasks with it. I do them

You need to make him wrk overtime then, and hire someone with that money to pay for someone to do some or the charring for you.

Yes dittany, that's true, but when it comes to computer and IT stuff he is a disaster, his IT department know him well.
Colditz, yes, you're right

MB how frustrating for you!
I'm not surprised you are wondering if he is on the AS. Have you looked at his other behaviours ie is he good with change? Is he affectionate, good with eye contact? These are gross generalisations BTW, but could be something to think about.

what is the point in labelling an adult who is, by and large, getting on just fine in life?

'He can't do anything else. '

Yes he can.

My husband has severe learning disabilities and can do all those things you mentioned.

He has serious literacy problems and sever dyspraxia, too.

My five-year-old with severe dyspraxia can do some of the things on your list.

There's a poster on here who is completely blind who can do all that stuff.

If he does not have a disability which precludes him from doing such basic tasks, then he can do them.

For one reason or another, however, he isn't.

write out simple instructions

sure a lawyer can follow those

for the laundry, i actually took pictures of myself doing it and the dial and the laundry and laminated them in a binder.

because DH has such bad dyslexia, it's hard for him to follow written instructions. his dyspraxia makes it difficult for him to sequence things.

i got him the cooking game thingy for his DS lite with step by step video instructions and he loves it.

Guess what I'm buying DH for Xmas? DS Lite sounding good

I think YABU. I doactually like tuna tomatoes and pasta. You sound like you want to control everything he does and never let him just get on with things.

lol

god even DS1 (just turned 8) managed to figure out the washing machine the other day (when he was being a complete spoilt little brat and I told him "fine you can do all the stuff I do for you - very immature of me I know - but it worked - he's been an angel since).

OK he mixed colours and whites - but as it was the 40 quick wash we reguarly use no big deal, he worked out where to put the powder, and put it on the right setting.........shame it took him 20 minutes to figure out that it wouldn't start because the door wasn't shut properly