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Re DH - quick answers....

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strawberrycornetto · 10/10/2008 23:09

DH has been away for work and got back yesterday. Last night I went to a friend's house and he had a mate over. Planned a night together tonight but when I got back they had drunk lots of whiskey and DH "told me" he was going out to meet him and his wife (my BF) tonight. I've been at work all day, he's been off but done basically nothing at home because he stayed in bed all morning.

I said it was ok for him to go out and me to stay home but could he be back by 11. He's not of course . Its kind of a final straw with his behaviour over the last few weeks.

AIBU to make a fuss when he gets in. Just feel he's being really selfish and that everything is about him. It was my first full week after mat leave and I don't feel I've had any support from him. Any views?

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Dropdeadfred · 10/10/2008 23:10

he's a twat?

BeheadedHereNow · 10/10/2008 23:11

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strawberrycornetto · 10/10/2008 23:12

DDF - are you asking me or telling me? lol

BHN - probably right, except he never listens.

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SpandexIsMyEnemy · 10/10/2008 23:12

tbh i'd leave it for tonight and say something tomorrow - I don't like talking to drunk people when sober cos they piss me off.

elastamum · 10/10/2008 23:13

Wait until morning then kick his arse

WingsofaBatEyeofNewt · 10/10/2008 23:13

If he's pissed leave it for tonight he'll remember nothing you've said.

Tell him in the morning.

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strawberrycornetto · 10/10/2008 23:13

Probably wise, but I know I've lost my temper with him now. Perhaps I should go to bed and ignore him...

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OldLadyKnowsNothing · 10/10/2008 23:17

Pretend to be asleep when he comes in, or he might get all "friendly"...

PeaMcLean · 10/10/2008 23:32

TBH, I sort of feel you're setting yourself up to fail by asking him to come home by 11. After too many drinks, he will stay out until closing time. Have you got a spare room? Go in there if he wakes you up when he gets in, so you can get a good night's sleep whilst he snores revoltingly and then you can make a real point in the morning.

However, the real failure was on his part by reneging on your evening out. There's no excuse for that. And there's clearly more to it. He's got used to you being at home and hasn't worked out that now you're back at work things are different? Persevere and stand your ground.

Sorry, that kind of thing may not really be what you're after right now. And yes, he is a twat as well.

Hope you sleep ok.

TinkerBellesMum · 10/10/2008 23:40

Want to join a club? TBD has gone out for someone from work's works stag do. He said he'd get some food for me on his way home, said he wasn't going to drink and would be home by 10 (we live just up the road from the clubs and he's got the car). He hasn't got his keys and we haven't got a spare bed at the moment so I have to wait up. Good job I called food in.

VinegARGHHHTits · 10/10/2008 23:46

ignore him tonight, plan a night out for yourself with some friend tomorrow, stay out late and come home drunk, see how he likes it.

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