Why does nothing ever get done??

[MrsSnape]

DS1 comes out of school today and told me that his friend was being beaten up by "Damien" and he was attacking him for no reason. So DS tried to break it up and "Damian" slapped him across the face.

It was "investigated" by the teachers and when I asked what had happened I was told they "had a word with damien" Basically as soon as they find out it's damien its treat like "oh well, we know what he can be like, lets all move on and forget about it".

Damian is basically a little shit who has punched, kicked, stabbed (with pencil/compass) spat at etc most of the other kids at some point since reception. They're now in year 5 yet NOTHING ever gets done about him.

He also went as far as to call someone a paedohile and child molesterer before accusing a 10 year old boy of "messing about" with his own baby sister.

I know you're all going to say "how awful, calling a child a little shit, you don't know what kind of home-life he has" etc etc but why should the other kids have to put up with this??

Read this with horror because ds1 has a 'Damian' in Y1 and several of us have been talking about how his behaviour will escalate as he gets older.
"oh well, we know what he can be like, lets all move on and forget about it". This is exactly what they already seem to be saying about this boy and what's worse the other children in the class seem to have accepted this too
I too feel sorry for this child, but what about the rights of the other children not be punched, kicked, stabbed and strangled?

How is this approach even helpful to "Damien"?

At this rate he will spend his schooldays causing havoc and be unemployable and unlikable at the end.

Oh, and I do know what kind of home life this child has and no, it's not good. I don't think the other children in the class should have to pay for his parents' mistakes tho.

Exactly, I mean...how far is it going to go??

"Stacey" lost an eye because "Damien" stabbed her in it...but you know what Damien can be like?"

I have made complaints before...at one point I was told "oh yes, Damien does have problems but he's such a sweet little lad"
And another corker was "Oh I know he can be a pain...but he has such a cute little face, that cheeky grin of his" ... err no he has a cocky face with a malicious grin. He's not 2 FFS, he's almost 10.

This is all so familiar.....

My friend said exactly the same thing today Mrssnape - the school is waiting for something really bad to happen before they will do anything. I just do not understand why though..

I think riven has a good point about the police tho. It might seem drastic but it is assault.

You could contact your education welfare service for advice about what to do. I've spoken to a lot of parents who have found them very helpful.

We've got a "Damien" at pre-school and i've already got my eye on him as he is passive agreesive. He looks around to make sure no-one is looking and break things or hit another child.
Then he looks at you as if butter wouldn't melt.
Any adults that try and correct him get a torrent of bad language and hitting and kicking.
And yes he has only just turned 4yrs old.
Just a bit concerned as he will be starting reception with my DD2

Not if he's under 10...

Once a child hits 10 is it legally classed as assault?

I read this with horror because it is so obvious that the school are not fulfilling their responsibilities of protecting the children in their care (including Damian from the consequences of his actions) and enforcing their anti-bullying policy (which they are legally obliged to have).

I would go in and ask the headteacher to specify exactly how he is going to keep the children safe. Basically scare the living daylights out of him with thoughts of what could happen!

Then if he does not come up with practical concrete plans, write strong letters to the school governors, the LEA etc.

Every class has a Damian. The little Damian in DS1 class (7yrs) has his own sticker chart and gets given toys once a week. . Yes, he gets rewarded because he has managed not to thump any one. DS1, who is a good as gold, is lucky if he gets a sticker from the teacher once a month.

Crackfox, that is exactly what happens at this school! Damian has his own chart and gets all these rewards and privilages whilst the kids that go in and NEVER misbehave are lucky if they ever seen a good work slip or merit.

Last year for instance Damian was up in assembly for "achieving" 16 good work slips in a term. DS has earnt 1.

The 'funniest' bit about it was that on the day of the awards, Damien flooded the boys toilets and had to be brought out of the heads office to receive his certificate.

Great example to set the other kids.

It is a shame really, because the Damians of the world do tend to have crap parents but they will also get a massive shock as they grow up. They will find that life isn't about sticker charts but prison sentences for assault. Meanwhile the kids in their class just get the crap beaten out of them until