Not sure: Is she taking the piss?

[exasperatedmummy]

I have become "friends" with a woman i met at M&T, her son is going to be at the same playschool as DD. Went round for a cup of tea this morning after she asked me round yesterday. I had only been there five minutes when she said, Oh, sorry, we have to go out in half an hour -ok, no problem. Turns out she was taking her DS to another lads house to play and have coffee with the mum - still no problem, i was quite releived as i didn't want to spend too long there as i have lots to do today. What is sort of eating me is two things really: Firstly, she seems to be involved with a lot of the mums at M&T and i feel a bit of an outsider. She is quite middle class and im very much not, so my expectations and lifestyle is quite different. So, ok, no problem, but not the foundations for a close friendship. I have been having these thoguhts for a bit, don't get me wrong, i like her, but just never quite "gel" if you see what i mean. Today she asked if i would have her eldest son for her while she took her baby swimming lessons. This is for an hour after playschool, so i can pick them both up, My DD and her DS.

I just get the feeling i could be letting myself in for being taken advantage of. Like she is almost cultivating the friendship so that i can pick her lad up. Yes, i know she could return the favour but anyway. I have been in a friendship like this before. My friend would ring me up and say "oh, what are you doing such and such day" i would reply nothing, thinking oh good, a night out etc - "Will you babysit, my FOUR boys" This was when DD1 was small - so now im sensitive about it.

I have another friend who i met at a different group and we are more alike. I would be quite happy if it were her and im not sure why really.

I don't mind looking after peoples children, but i certainly dont want to have to commit to anything and as i say, im not sure about this womans motives for the friendship. I would quite happily be told that i am being unreasonable, and feel happy to babysit if you knwo what i mean - im not very good at the whole friendship thing, i take a long time to make friends and will do anything for my friends really, but im unsure of this person, but not sure why.

It didn't sound like a crisis, more like making arrangements for the weekend. It isn't the first time that she has been on the phone for ages when i have been with her. One time she actually MADE the call. As i said, im really not sure - my gut feeling is that i could get taken advantage of, the other part of me thinks, well this could work both ways but im unsure.

As for the class comments, i really just meant it that she does have a very different lifestyle and set of values than i do. That isn't a criticism but just makes me wonder why she bothers with me? IYSWIM

I think that the situation was a bit, seems a bit off of her.

If there is no spark between you prehaps it is time to use your energy elsewhere? Although, she may be a handy accquaintance(sp?) for return babysitting.

I think that the situation was a bit, seems a bit off of her.

If there is no spark between you prehaps it is time to use your energy elsewhere? Although, she may be a handy accquaintance(sp?) for return babysitting.

Don`t get dragged into having her dc for her on a permanet basis .
Its a lot harder to get out of at a later date .

She is taking the piss

I wised up to a friend I once had. When we met up she was always on the phone gassing or spending 20 mins to write a novel of a text.
Brushed it off. Until she got her dogs. My DD hates dogs and she kept bringing them here despite the fact they shat and peed everywhere, and I'm in rented accom. I told her this many times.

The clincher for the finish was everytime we met up, she wait until it was time to go and then start tapping for money. £10 for gas, £5 electric. I lent her money once and that opened the floodgates. She once asked me for £60 for her new glasses! and via text

I babysat for her and bought her groceries when times were hard. I'm on benefits too, so I know how difficult it is.

I don't see her anymore, as I asked her for some money back what she owed me, and got really arsey about it. Just be very careful. I think she is being rude and taking advantage...