to of called the police on my neighbours and be annoyed at the police

[pingping]

Recently moved into a new block of flats and on a everyday basis I hear the top neighbours arguing. Last night however they were arguing for over 2hrs and all of a sudden the woman started screaming for help at that point I had had enough and called the police as it sounded like he was beating her up.

So police come and she says everything is fine and as the police are leaving they mention my house number to each other and knock on my door directly below the arguing neighbours now I am worried that the neighbours may cause problems for me.

The Man is in his mid 40's and built like a brick house they seem to like to drink alot should i ignored the screams for help and next time it happens what should I do.

If it happens again, call the police again.
If the neighbour causes you any hassle, call the police.

you were right to call the police if you thought the woman was in danger.

The police should have been more discreet about disclosing who called them, especially if this man is aggressive

YANBU

you did absolutly nothing wrong, the day before i kicked my X out he was beating the crap out of me and strangling me, i was shouting for help but my neighbours didnt call the police, i wish you had been my neighbour

it wouldnt be so bad but i can hear them if they so much as cough

but they could cause some problems, maybe try to bump into the female and check shes ok, she may need someone to talk too, i would prob have spilled my guts to someone kind.

You did the right thing.

If she said all is fine then nowt the police can do, but they could have been more discreet i agree, just call then again of you get hassle off neighbour

I was thinking about approching the lady but really wouldn't know what to say to her also the only time I see her she is with the guy. Very unsure if a Teenage girl lives in the house as well as they are on the top floor and she always seems to be hanging around on the stairs.

What I don't understand is why she screamed for help and when the poilce came clamped up?

You did the right thing. She probably thought that by screaming she'd scare him off her. The police shouldn't have mentioned your number, that was really out of line and you would be well within your rights to speak to the Sergent as they could have put you at risk.

I was in an abusive marriage, one day I fell down the stairs when I was alone, I couldn't stand but was near the front door so called for help. I found out after we split up that they (both sides) heard me but were too scared to help in case he was there Also found out that one of them started seeing him after we split up

After what I went through I would never ignore a woman calling for help or what sounded like DV. There was a couple above me who were arguing, really heated, then the banging and crying started and it sounded like she'd been hit. I called the police, don't know what happened but there were loads there very fast (I used to live in the entertainment quarter of Birmingham, one of the safest places to be because of the amount of police around). I also told the police when someone on my floor hurt themselves that before they came she wouldn't let her partner near her and was telling him it was his fault. The way I see it even if they say they're ok this time and next time, the police build up a picture and so does she. Hopefully if she sees enough people are caring she will do something about it.

If you think someone is in danger you should always call the Police. However if you don't want them knocking on your door you need to say that you don't want a visit by them as for every person who complains the Police knocked on their door there's someone else who complains that they didn't and there was loads more they wanted to tell them.

Also btw it's 'should have I' as in your title not 'of' - pet peeve of mine .

The police don't always visit, depends if they see enough themselves and sometimes they will call you. Nothing wrong with a visit but for them to say in front of the person they've been called to see the number of the house that called is out of line.

Thanks Tinkerbellesmum I will call the police next time it happens for sure. I dont know how people can ignore it I would feel awful if something bad happened to someone and I ignored there crys for help.

Next time I will not let the police know my address though.

TBH KeyWest I just didn't expect the police to knock on the door or talk about which house made the complaint I was just trying to help but don't want to put myself and people in my house at risk.

You were right to call the police.

When I was 19 I had just left my uni course and moved into a shared flat above a shop. I heard shouting and cries, bangs etc in the next room. It was quite frightening and I think in my heart I just knew someone was actually getting hurt. We didn't have a phone so I went out to the nearest call box. Called 999 and the guy on the phone asked how did I know someone was being hurt. Anyway they did attend and I went back to the flat to find the woman had actually jumped out of the 1st floor window.

It was awful, she broke both her legs. I'll never forget what happened, still upsets me now and this was 15 years ago, pre mobile phones.

Keep out of it. At the end of the day it will always be your word against the other woman's. If you call them, they come out and then she says all is fine, there is nothing you can do.

knockedgymnast

I am so at kgymnast post I daren't post a reply, other than .

You did the right thing ping ping, though if you phone again (and hope you don't have to) tell the police you do NOT want them to call at your address or be mentioned to the neighbours.

Pingping you did the right thing, it was very poor of the police to not be more low key about who called them though.

knockedgymnast, I understand what you are saying and to a point I agree,I had the pleasure of living downstairs from a right pair of chavs who spent every waking moment playing drum and base and trying to kill each other, I did call the police once but she said no no its all fine I fell!!! (yeah right) so I left them to it, he beat 10 shades of shit out of her and I turned the TV up and carried on watching countdown.
I think she loved the drama to be honest (not in any way saying that is every case but I really do think in her case it was) anyway I had the landlord chuck them out soon after.

Pingping. I didn't mean to offend you. I am talking from bitter experience. Years ago, I to, got involved the police when a neighbour was being beaten up badly by her partner. As a result of me thinking I was doing the right thing, I got threatened and in the end, had to move. The irony is that the couple stayed together and made my life hell. As a result of this, I would never put myself in that situation again.

Sorry you're going through this

If the police get enough complaints they will put a picture together, even if she never tells them there is a problem and it will all go on record. On day she might ask for help and they'll have it all written down when they were called out. One day he might half kill her and the police will already know that he is an abusive man.

I wish my neighbours had helped me.