to mind that my sister hasn't called me for my birthday?

[NotQuiteCockney]

Yes, I call her every year for hers.

We're not that close, but we had a bit of a Big Talk this year when I visited, and I thought things were better.

(She does have two kids and a busy life. She will probably call me tomorrow. Maybe. If she remembers.)

Do you know why she hasn't called?

No. Exactly. So at least until you know the answer to that, I'm afraid YABU.

(Happy Birthday from your non-sister )

Yeah, it's possible something else is going on.

But to be fair, I'm pretty sure she often forgets, or runs a day late or something. (Oh, and it was her birthday three weeks ago.)

Must stop caring.

No word last night, no email.

To be fair, the time lag thing doesn't help, if she remembers my birthday in the evening, she can't call. And she's not keen on email ...

And no word today. This is just shit, isn't it.

Not as shit as my family, my brother forgets my dad forgets my step-mum forgets and on occasion the in-laws forget.

I've gone weeks without it being mentioned, i don't bother about it now, as i know it's not just me they're rubbish at remembering anyones.

Happy belated Birthday x

yabu, you're a grown woman, it's only your birthday, you haven't had surgery or or an accident, she has more important things on her mind. Maybe if you didn't create such a ridiculous pressure around your birthday then you wouldn't be so disappointed, and going forward if people didn't feel the pressure so much they might be more inclined to think about your birthday because they want to rather than feeling lke they have to. Stop being such a princess!
Meant in the nicest possible way btw, know it sounds harsh, but think it's fair!

I don't think you are being totally unreasonable. She's your sister afterall, and as you say it was her birthday 3 weeks ago, so she must have got used to the fact yours is very soon after hers!

Benefit of the doubt though. Have you spoken to her recently? Are you sure you are talking to each other? How about you send her an E-mail to make sure everything is OK with her and see if that jogs her memory. If it doesn't, then get the hump!

Hope you had a nice day yesterday, anyway!

Happy Birthday for yesterday

re: sister. Wouldnt be too upset. I forget my sisters' these days and she forgets mine. To be fair - on her last birthday I was in hospital with DS who had pneumonia so it wasnt at my minds forefront. But I don't always have an excuse. I'm just busy, and its just a birthday. If you do speak now and again, then I think that should be enough

Minky, I'm not expecting a parade, I'm expecting a phone call!

(Oh, and when I did have surgery, she didn't get in touch for that, either.)

We spoke for her birthday, maybe a bit after that, too? Yes, my birthday has always been three weeks after hers, so you'd think she'd be used to it.

It's been a tricky few years for us, to be fair - our mum died just over two years ago, she always used to be the one to make the calls and remember dates.

I probably should be cross with my dad, he didn't call, but he's always been crap.

It's entirely possible there are other things going on, it's true.

We do speak now and then - it's always me doing the running, though. She doesn't email or call, generally - except normally on my birthday.

See, I don't think it is just a birthday. Families are so far apart from each other these days and especially since your mum died just a few years ago, I think its important.

DD had a birthday last week and DH's family have yet to contact her! She's had a card from PIL, but nothing from BIL and I think its a bit off. I appreciate that people are busy and life gets in the way, but everyone has 2 mins to either txt, ring or send an e-mail and you can't tell me she hasn't been anywhere near somewhere that sells cards and stamps in the last few weeks!

Why am I getting [cross] for you?

I would be a bit sad if my sisters didn't contact me at all on my birthday.
Happy birthday for yesterday, NQC.

Oh, I should probably add that both DSes birthdays were a week after my sister's birthday. No call, nothing.

But to be fair, I never remember when her DD1 has her birthday, but it is generally when we're in town, so we attend her birthday party and buy her a gift. I don't know her DD2's birthday.

I am also a bit miffed that two of my good friends from back home, who normally remember (ish) my birthday, haven't. And MIL, who always sends cards for everything, (I think we've had a 'congratulations to my grandson on his first day of school' card from here. Not blank cards she wrote that in, obviously, but a store-bought one. Um, yes, so MIL hasn't sent me a card, either.

Oh, I should probably add - the Big Thing in our relationship these days is, she got married in January (in Canada, where we are from). I didn't go, for a wide range of reasons.

We had a Big Talk about this, this summer, and I thought everything was ok.

And still nothing, from my sister or my father.

Yes, I probably should email.

One friend from back home has been in touch, she was flying a lot this week.

And, still, nothing.

I'm getting tempted to call them about this, but to say what? I guess 'it hurt my feelings that you didn't call'.