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To think 'once a mother, always a mother'?

33 replies

suedonim · 09/10/2008 18:39

Because it looks like I'll always be in mum-mode. Ds2 is coming to visit us here in Nigeria at half term. I was mulling over the fact that the holiday coincides with my book group meeting and so I would have to take ds2 as well as dd2 with me. But then I had a brainwave - they could take a laptop and a game or two and I could park them in a corner while I enjoyed my meeting.

And then I had an even bigger brainwave. I could leave them both at home while I go to the book group. After all, ds2 is 29yo & married and so I feel the pair of them will in fact be quite safe for an hour or two on their own.

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sarah293 · 09/10/2008 18:41

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Anna8888 · 09/10/2008 18:41

ROFL

ledodgy · 09/10/2008 18:42

pmsl

CharCharGabor · 09/10/2008 18:43

pmsl

OrmIrian · 09/10/2008 18:44

ROFL! Are you sure he'd know what to do in the event of a fire, suedonim ? Is it really worth the risk?

thesockmonsterofdoom · 09/10/2008 18:45

pmsl

Janos · 09/10/2008 18:49

That did make me laugh. My mum says this too!

suedonim · 09/10/2008 18:56

Ooh, yes, must show him the fire escape! (We live on 8th floor) Also lock away all medicines. At least I don't need to buy a fireguard in Africa.

Riven, that's the biggest danger - that he'll have eaten everything in the house by the time I get home. He's always had a phenomenal appetite!

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random · 09/10/2008 18:59

PMSL my eldest dd is 29 and married I'm just the same... always the mum

wb · 09/10/2008 19:44
  • you have just shown me my future!
Saturn74 · 09/10/2008 19:45
Grin
suedonim · 09/10/2008 20:24

I didn't mean to run away and leave you, the internet went down. Again....

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Habbibu · 09/10/2008 20:26

If you come home and there's cereal all over the floor, and crayon on the walls.... well, don't say we didn't warn you.

suedonim · 09/10/2008 20:50
Grin
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Overmydeadbody · 09/10/2008 20:54

MAybe you should leave them for a shorter time to start off with, say ten minutes, just to make sure they can handle it? Better safe than sorry after all.

eidsvold · 09/10/2008 20:57

pmsl sue - however I can tell you that with me - the youngest at 40 - my mother is still trying to mother me - despite the fact I left home for university at 17 and have never really been back!!!

MrsMattie · 09/10/2008 20:58

LMAO

suedonim · 09/10/2008 21:15

I am a bit concerned about leaving them now. I think I'll check with DIL to see if she ever leaves ds2 on his own. I know he takes himself to work - in a car! - all by himself. Oh, I dunno, this motherhood lark, it doesn't get any easier.

Lol at your mum, Eidsvold - that's sweet.

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eidsvold · 09/10/2008 21:21

sweet but incredibly annoying - you know we went away to my grandmother's funeral in Melbourne and it was winter so cold etc and she is reminding me to wrap up - make sure I've got my vest on to cover my chest and keep me warm!!! I just laughed and reminded mum I had spent 4 years living in the Uk and managed to stay warm and remember to wrap up!!

eidsvold · 09/10/2008 21:22

i can understand your worry though - he is still your child and a man - you never know what they get up to left alone for a few hours. I am sure dd2 will make sure he behaves!

suedonim · 09/10/2008 21:41

Oh yes, dd2 will clype (tell tales) on him if he sets even a toe out of line, lol.

We had a neighbour who was a bit like your mum, Eidsvold. She remonstrated with dh once, (probably for not wearing a vest) beginning with 'I'm speaking to you as a mother...' Every year after that, he bought her a Mothering Sunday card with something like You've been like a Mother to me on it.

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eidsvold · 09/10/2008 22:09

Dd1's teacher actually wears more of a mum hate when dealing with dd1 than a teacher hat - works better. SO I think you never stop being a mum.

eidsvold · 09/10/2008 22:10

oops that should have been mum hat not hate!

Skramble · 09/10/2008 22:12

I do stuff without thinking like taking choc wrapper off my BF and sticking it in my handbag instead of letting them figure out what to do with their rubbish and I am guilty of telling grown adults that it is now OK to cross the road.

suedonim · 09/10/2008 22:22

I think my most embarrassing 'mum moment' was the day I strolled down to school and pointed out the big red tractor that was approaching....to our dog, who was not in the least bit impressed.

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