To just want things in my life to go right for once???

[ToThrottleABlackBird]

Life was shite up until just over two years ago when I met dp. We have had our ups and downs but hopefully things are going to be fine between us.
So now our relationship starts to go right, other things start going bloody wrong.

Our house is a shithole. I am so embarresed by it and although I have tried my best to make it a home it just isnt.
There is a big patch of wall in our bedroom that hasnt got any plaster on due to damp problems (which runs through the whole house) Im sick of painting over the damp in the living room just for it to show though a couple of weeks later.

Our bathroom and kitchen are falling to bits, literally. We have carpet tiles (yuk) in our kitchen because the floor underneath is that fucked that lino wont go down. It stinks no matter how much I clean it. The cupboard doors are falling off, one fell on my head today. The oven is crap and so is everything else.

We cant afford to get dd or ds (ok, so he will be too young anyways) anything for christmas because we are that skint that we can only just afford to feed dd properly. Money matters are getting worse too. We go further and further into our overdraft every month and I see no way of getting out of this black hole. I have sold everything I can think of to make money. I evenwent back to using disposable nappies to make some quick cash to pay a bill

Everyone has always said that I will go nowhere in life and although I have dd and will have ds soon, I cant see anything in my future.

Sorry, I am just feeling really sorry for myself tonight.

I sympathise, it sounds like our house,

In the end I decorated one room (our front room) so I could shunt people in there, or shut the door and pretend the rest of the house doesn't exist. It has helped.

freecycle some homely items - throws/cushions etc. I know how you feel, my house is a shit hole, DSs room was so damp all the wallpaper went mouldy, one wall had plaster falling off, front door now won't lock.... just everything crap. Luckily we are now gutting it but it's taking forever as the workmen can only come saturdays, so everywhere is bare plaster, 1/2 stripped door frames, no curtains as I dare not put them up because of the dust every saturday. We currently have a square of carpet duck taped on the living room floor as they cannot lay the floor until the kitchen goes in as they need to use the livingroom as a workshop! Seems never ending... but things always get better, slowly but surely {{hugs}}

TTABB - sounds like you are having a really shit time, and horrible to have the house when you are pregant ours was a building site when I was and it make me very crazy.I was painting skirting as my waters broke

Once the baby came I didn't notice any of it, in fact I only finished that bit of skirting when I got pregnant again.

Is your house your own? are you renting? or council/HA? if either of the last two your landlord should be sorted the damp and if not get on to citizens advice asap,

if you then get to a debt advisor and see if they can help anyway, ask about for a dehumidifier (makes a huge difference when we had damp - plus things like puting cold water in a bath before hot so it doesn't steam/opening a window when having a shower, lids on pans when cooking

then choose the thing that is buggying you the most and see if you can sort it (we got free lino by asking on freecycle and I sometimes see cookers

and as for xmas, kids love the magic not necessarily the presents, my best memories are making paperchains with my mum and her singing carols out of tune, do a thread on here for cheap ideas and there will be hundreds of responses

I really hope things pick up for you x

sorry have the house not sorted I meant to say

not being UR. I feel the same. One crap thing after another and falling apart house too.
Is it your house or rented?

Do you own the house or rent it?

Double X post!

Aww to Ttab sounds like you are going through a hard time

Do you rent or are you mortgaged?If renting ,Can the landlord do anything about the house,surely he must have some obligation.Have you tried contacting the CAB?

How old are your dcs?I don't know if you would be interested but I was going to carboot a few bits and bobs.I have some Bob the Builder toys (Dizzy,Roley,Travis and Benny!) that I was going to get rid of plus some Bob DVDs as DS is now too old for them.I also have a few clothes - girls 18-24 and some boys 3-4 Summer stuff.I also have a nice snuggly pink Next padded coat that dd has outgrown aged 2-3.Ifyou are interested I would be prepared to send you them FFP.(I hope I haven't insulted you)

Hugs xx

Fanjolina (great name btw) dd is nearly 14months n ds due 20th of this month. Thank you for your very very kind offer but I would not feel right accepting them I hope this does not sound ungrateful.
Thank you everyone for your kind words. The house is mortgaged which is good but bad in a way also.
I am really sorry for whinging. I know there are much worse out there than us

Blackbird, you are a lovely, bright person. You've got your whole life ahead of you and you are a GREAT mum! You have already made a lot of your life, considering the rough start you had.
You've worked hard to make your house nice, and it is. Every time I come over it looks nicer
And you are allowed a good whinge now and again so don't apologise for that!
YOu're the best friend that I have had in a long, long time

blackbird have you tried freecycle
I got dd a toy wooden farm from there for her birthday one year and she loved it!

Freecycle is fab! Just got DS a Little People toy from there for his 2nd birthday later this month. Picked it up this morning and it is lovely!!
Blackbird, I am due another clearout of toys soon - shall I keep anything aside that might be good for your DD for Xmas?

Are you ok today? I can pop over if you want or you are welcome over here.