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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

to be p***** off with new mothers help on day 2

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mousemole · 07/10/2008 13:36

so far its not really going well.
Despite a very comprehensive time table of the day she is drifting around not getting much done. This morning in middle of really busy time she asked me to get the passwords so she could access the internet wirelessly from her computer. Then she asked where was best to put her computer in the day so she could use it (? its a full time 9-7 job).
Then she took DS1 for a walk, came inside and left very expensive Phil and Teds outside on the pavement in pouring rain. Frankly a miracle it wasn't stolen given it was there for 2 hrs. I came back from Doc's with Ds2 and she was on the phone to the travel agent about a trip to Paris.
I just dont want this person in my house, it is driving me nuts. AIBU or hormonal ?

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WeirdCod · 07/10/2008 14:44

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FruitynNutty · 07/10/2008 14:44

Really?
I was a true Nanny (for many many years) and got a good hour to myself when the child/ren were in bed. They slept for 3 hours so I had an hour for myself and an hour to catch up on things I couldn't do while child/ren awake. I'm now a Childminder and allow myself a good hour to relax while the children are sleep. Then use the next hour to do paperwork.
Looking after children is mentally and physically exhausting. It's a very long day too especially if the day involves a long commute.

Like I said, as long as she doesn't use her working time then I don't see a problem with her being able to get some personal jobs done or escape on the internet.

She should have been told this at the interview. It's common sense really though. I wouldn't have dreamed of using my work time for this.

Ebb · 07/10/2008 14:45

Good lord! Get rid. She is taking the piss!

FruitynNutty · 07/10/2008 14:46

I meant 2 hours not 3
preg brain making my fingers slip

Rhubarb · 07/10/2008 14:46

Poor girl, 2nd day and she's booted out. Not even a weeks trial?

Bloody hell you lot are harsh!

Ebb · 07/10/2008 15:30

yes I guess it's a little harsh but I would want someone to show a little common sense if looking after my Dc. I would also be a little concerned that they would even consider going on the Internet during working hours when they have 2 hours break in the day. I just think that's a little odd.

Rhubarb · 07/10/2008 15:42

She didn't say she was going to use her pc during working hours, she asked for the passwords so she could set it up.

I still think you should do a list of Do's and Don'ts, tell her she's on a week trial and see how it goes from there. I presume she passed the interview and the reference checks? So give her the chance to prove herself.

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mousemole · 07/10/2008 16:12

cod, what has number of children got to do with anything ? You dont know my personal circumstances so dont judge please.
She asked for the passwords as she said she 'wanted to 'get onto her computer now'/ Sorry, should have said that earlier.
Have just come back from picking us DS2 from a playdate and there is a smashed glass jar of marmite all over the floor with shards of glass everywhere.

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Flamebat · 07/10/2008 16:16

If she is like this on day 2 when she is meant to be all enthusiastic and proving herself in a new job, I wouldn't be keen on keeping her tbh.

I'm normally one for giving people a break, but this is just silly

Dropdeadfred · 07/10/2008 16:24

Get rid....does seem like a really really really really long working day though

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mousemole · 07/10/2008 16:28

it is a long day although with a 2hr break minimum is what most people work.

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Dropdeadfred · 07/10/2008 16:30

have you spoken to her yet?

countingto10 · 07/10/2008 16:41

I had a mother's help when I was pregnant with DS3 & suffering severe morning sickness. She drove me nuts and lasted about 6 weeks - she just didn't turn up one morning - boy! was I relieved. I think I just didn't like having someone in mny home around all the time.

DH and I then decided that it would be more beneficial for me to have a cleaner a couple of times a week with my mum and DH helping with the kids as and when necessary.

BTW my mother's help ran up a £70.00 phone bill in those 6 weeks !

I think you should go with your gut instinct and get rid - she will wind you up even more given time.

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mousemole · 07/10/2008 19:04

going going gone ! Had a chat and she felt the same. Thank god, some things best nipped in the bud !

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Blondeshavemorefun · 07/10/2008 19:11

glad you got it sorted

and yes if you said to her or any new mh that they can have their break 1-3, then i would expect things to be done then that she needs, ie calls, and surfing

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mousemole · 07/10/2008 19:50

exactly !

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loves2shop · 07/10/2008 20:02

I am only 17 and have worked in a nursery for 6 months, I'm currently looking for a mothers help job and wouldnt dream of doing any of the things mentioned. It sounds to me as though she doesnt enjoy her job and is doing it to get by rather than doing it because its what she wants to do. If i were her i would be concerned with spending time with the children, making sure they were challenged and stimulated rather then worrying about my personal errands. It aggrivates me when i hear about people like this because i would be so good at this job and all i need to be given is a chance, whereas this girl has been given a chance and a good opportunity but is wasting it. It may not be my place to comment but i just wanted to give my oppinion from a different side.

Salleroo · 07/10/2008 20:17

Well done mousemole, always go with your gut. She sounded like a waste of space and more stress then she was worth. Good luck with finding a new one like loves2shop

danceontherun · 07/10/2008 21:05

Cannot believe there are people out there who think its acceptable to leave a phil and teds outside!!! On a more serious note leaving broken glass all over the floor?Who does that??

timewaster · 07/10/2008 21:23

What is a phil and teds?!!

loves2shop · 07/10/2008 22:04

Thank you danceontherun

loves2shop · 07/10/2008 22:06

Correction
Thank you saleroo*

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mousemole · 08/10/2008 08:40

Phil and Teds is a £400 buggy that I saved like mad for ! We live on a very busy town centre road, not a quiet street so am amazed it wasn't stolen. It was also pouring with rain so got absolutely sodden! Loves2shop, your attitude sounds amazing and exactly what I was looking for ! I am glad I went with my gut feeling and let her go and am relieved to have the house back to myself ! Loves2shop, best of luck with your job search, someone will be very lucky to get you

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loves2shop · 08/10/2008 22:24

Thank you for your kind words. I hope i can find a family who thinks the same

Catfeena · 09/10/2008 12:45

you have to get rid, in a job looking after children yoo can't take any chances. in another environment you might leave it longer but not in this case, you couldn't be confident she wouldn't do soemthing that endangered the children.
Agree on hours BTW, not unusual for childcare in the home.

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