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To have released a goldfish into the stream behind our house

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roseability · 06/10/2008 22:39

Had 2 goldfish (I got them years ago before DS was born) in quite a big tank and I thought they were well looked after

One died of natural causes so we released the other. My DS wasn't interested in them (only a toddler) and I didn't want him getting old enough to want more as I admit they need more looking after than I originally thought

Am I hideous? Mean? Cruel to animals?

Hit me I can take it

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roseability · 07/10/2008 13:32

Kathy

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DaDaDa · 07/10/2008 13:33

"Maybe I take this far too seriously."

There's no 'maybe' about it...

roseability · 07/10/2008 13:34

My DH keeps telling me not to post. I am too sensitive by far

It is soooo adictive though. Wish I was one of the witty, humorous types

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roseability · 07/10/2008 13:37

Finally to add - RubberDuck you are right and I respect that you put forward your opinion without deliberately insulting me. My fish did have a reasonably nice life for 4 years (big tank, clean etc) but deserved to be seen through until the end

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littlestarschildminding · 07/10/2008 13:38

Good god I hope my fish aren't going to live for 6 years...........

Cute as they are and all that!!!

Ds (7) got them for a birthday pressie...he is bored of them already and they have only been around for 3 weeks!! Already I am the only one that feeds them and talks to them!

6 Years!!!!!!!!!!!

TwoIfBySea · 07/10/2008 13:40

I released one of my goldfish into the river outside my home once. I was 4 years old at the time and thought he would come back after a play - well the cat did.

Not only had I taken the fish out of his tank leaving the other two behind but I had gotten out of the house and down to the river on my own. My mother was not impressed and I was heartbroken when she said the fish was gone for good.

They are hardly tough to keep pets.

roseability · 07/10/2008 13:46

I got them before DS and cat. Was lonely

With the birth of DS, cat and PND the fish seemed suddenly very hard work

The tank was a nightmare to clean

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RubberDuck · 07/10/2008 14:01

roseability: thank you, that's a lovely compliment - I'm sorry if you've felt hounded at all by this thread. And I agree with those who say it's done, it wasn't done out of malice, don't lose sleep over it. Hopefully anyone else thinking about doing the same will think twice now.

littlestarschildminding: I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but goldfish (looked after properly) can live for 20 or so years - the oldest on record is 43.

If anyone takes anything out of this thread, please ...if you're going to buy a goldfish, research it properly first.

Each goldfish needs a minimum of 10 gallons per goldfish (that's around 45L). Adult fancy goldfish are HUGE... think great big cooking apple with fins and need lots of space. If they're put in smaller tanks, they don't stop growing - they become stunted where the outsides stop growing but their internal organs continue, leading to a painful death.

They need oxygenation. They need treated water so the chlorine and chloramines don't burn their gills. They need varied mixed diet, not just fish flake. They're messy creatures and need their tank cleaned regularly so they aren't poisoned in their own waste.

There is a lot of misinformation out there which some pet shops don't do a very good job of dispelling, unfortunately. There's a lot of unintentional fish cruelty - and I've done it myself - just bought a fish and then only read up on it later when it got sick due to my crappy care.

RubberDuck · 07/10/2008 14:02

(oh, and tropical fish are actually easier to keep )

Bubbaloo · 07/10/2008 14:04

There's always fish being offered on our local Freecycle too.
I very nearly offered one of our frogs,but he jumped down the plug hole when dh was cleaning the tank,never to be seen again.

mabanana · 07/10/2008 14:06

In the end the fish died when a fox knocked a small stone ornament into the pond, which ripped the liner so the water seeped out. Bloody murdering fox! Lock up the furry fiend!
I filled the pond with earth. Fish aren't worth the hassle.

roseability · 07/10/2008 14:18

Yes I was very naive about the level of care that Goldfish require. In fact I think a licence to keep them might be a good idea

Although our tank was big it was still probably not big enough and we only fed them fish flakes

Am even more determined to be extra nice to my cat and will probably never get fish again

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QuintessenceOfFrankenShadow · 07/10/2008 20:27

Rose, this is one of the funniest threads ever.

I have btw, been quoted £250 for my Koi. You shoul have tried a growth hormone, and maybe sold your goldfish for a fortune instead!

TeacherSaysSo · 07/10/2008 20:54

roseability I don't think you are cruel at all, I have goldfish happily living in my pond and I hardly ever feed them. they live off of little pond creatures and algae as nature intended.

Mine even bred - so I'm sure yours will find a friend and live happily ever after!

princesspeahead · 07/10/2008 20:55

read the first 20 posts or so

has anyone said "it's just a fish" yet?! lol

SinCity · 07/10/2008 20:58

you killed it

Nighbynight · 07/10/2008 21:20

We have got 2 small goldfish in a 50L tank, but we have been warned that we will need to get a pond or bigger tank in a year or two.

they get flakes, dried mosquito larvae, live worms, and ornamental plants as salad.

filter - yes
treated water - yes

we have got a little hoover thing to clean teh gravel, it is neat when you figure out how to use it.

If I had known in advance, I would have gone for tropical fish, but ds won the first blasted fish at the fair. Up til now, Ive spent c 120 euros, and when we have to put a pond in the garden, no doubt that figure will rise a lot.

what I dread most is what happened to our neighbours - they got 72 cute little baby goldfish one day

nooka · 07/10/2008 21:30

I got six small shubunkin for my garden pond (deepest part is three foot by four foot by two foot, with shallowish shelving edges. One of them was got by the local cat (who fished it out and then left it - I tried to treat it, but it ended up dying a pretty horrible death as it got an infection and the treatment didn't work). They all disappeared into the murk in the winter, so I don't know how many survived the cat and a local heron I saw fishing...

I hope my tenants are looking after them! There did seem to be plenty of natural wildlife in the pond within a very short space of time after I dug it (for a bunch of tadpoles).

Lauriefairycake · 07/10/2008 21:34

Maybe you could go out to the stream tomorrow and see if you can find it. It would be better to kill it than leave it to contaminate the waterway/other fish.

Technically it's just the same to kill it as buy a tuna sandwich and probably better than leaving it in there.

Hope you find it.

madmildred · 17/11/2008 19:41

I have to say if I'd done my research before I bought my son goldfish I probably would have thought twice. It's a good job the fish shop had an ex display tank at half price otherwise "Nemo and Dory" would be in a bowl on the dining table and I'd be feeling very guilty. All this nitrogen cycle business has been so interesting (OK so I admit I'm a geek) that the fish are no longer my son's but mine, I've added a weather loach and am already planning my new tank (I've only had this one for 2 weeks) be warned, KEEPING GOLDFISH IS ADDICTIVE!!!

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